What I wanna be when I grow up
Is there time for everything between growing up and dieing of old age?
Ganked from BeerKitty -
It’s all about you…
But you already knew that… didn’t you?
Your life is yours… your experiences are yours!
There are those that glorify victimhood… it’s always someone else’s fault… they couldn’t help it…
And there are those that are successful…
Who recognize that you are the largest influence on your life…
Who realize that you can’t always get exactly the results you want, but you can choose to view and use those results in a way that serves you…
Who accept that your wins are your doing… and that your losses are your doing…
It is sometimes described as internal locus of control.
Life can be a meditation of bringing more resources and experiences under your influence (conscious)… meditation will be profoundly influenced by your resources and experiences (unconscious)…
Regardless of how you choose to look at it… regardless of how you choose to take responsibility…
It’s all about you!
How Can You Take More Personal Responsibility?
Many, many people have the same attitude - everyone else is responsible for their situation. And in fact, I would submit that most (if not all) of us do this at some time or another. We blame others, instead of taking responsibility.
And sometimes, other people did help cause the problem. But to that I say: “Then come up with a solution. Make a change. Take responsibility for fixing it, if someone else is causing the problem.”
I urge you to ask this of yourself, every time you find yourself blaming someone else for a problem: How could I have acted differently to prevent this problem? What should I do differently next time?
Let me give you an example. Perhaps you’re at work, and a co-worker is continually doing a bad job on a group project, causing your group to fail. At a meeting, your boss asks you, What happened? Why did you guys fail? And you respond, “So and so keeps messing up. He caused us to fail.” That’s a typical situation, and a typical response.
Instead, ask yourself this: What could I have done, given that so and so is doing such a bad job, to make this project succeed anyway? And there are many solutions: You could have somehow taught this person to do a better job, or motivated him to do better. You could have reassigned his work, or worked around him. You could have gotten him off the team.
Sure, it’s easy to say that in hindsight, but the true value in this solution is two-fold:
1) You learn from failures like this, so that next time you don’t fail (at least, not for the same reason).
2) You learn to stop blaming others for your failures, and to take responsibility for your own destiny.
The value of this second point is incalculable. If you start taking control of your destiny, and stop letting others control it, you will get to the life you want. You will achieve whatever you want.
If you continue to let others sabotage you, and continue to be satisfied with blaming them and telling yourself (and others) that it wasn’t your fault, you’ll have a much harder time.
Ganked from BeerKitty -
It’s all about you…
But you already knew that… didn’t you?
Your life is yours… your experiences are yours!
There are those that glorify victimhood… it’s always someone else’s fault… they couldn’t help it…
And there are those that are successful…
Who recognize that you are the largest influence on your life…
Who realize that you can’t always get exactly the results you want, but you can choose to view and use those results in a way that serves you…
Who accept that your wins are your doing… and that your losses are your doing…
It is sometimes described as internal locus of control.
Life can be a meditation of bringing more resources and experiences under your influence (conscious)… meditation will be profoundly influenced by your resources and experiences (unconscious)…
Regardless of how you choose to look at it… regardless of how you choose to take responsibility…
It’s all about you!
How Can You Take More Personal Responsibility?
Many, many people have the same attitude - everyone else is responsible for their situation. And in fact, I would submit that most (if not all) of us do this at some time or another. We blame others, instead of taking responsibility.
And sometimes, other people did help cause the problem. But to that I say: “Then come up with a solution. Make a change. Take responsibility for fixing it, if someone else is causing the problem.”
I urge you to ask this of yourself, every time you find yourself blaming someone else for a problem: How could I have acted differently to prevent this problem? What should I do differently next time?
Let me give you an example. Perhaps you’re at work, and a co-worker is continually doing a bad job on a group project, causing your group to fail. At a meeting, your boss asks you, What happened? Why did you guys fail? And you respond, “So and so keeps messing up. He caused us to fail.” That’s a typical situation, and a typical response.
Instead, ask yourself this: What could I have done, given that so and so is doing such a bad job, to make this project succeed anyway? And there are many solutions: You could have somehow taught this person to do a better job, or motivated him to do better. You could have reassigned his work, or worked around him. You could have gotten him off the team.
Sure, it’s easy to say that in hindsight, but the true value in this solution is two-fold:
1) You learn from failures like this, so that next time you don’t fail (at least, not for the same reason).
2) You learn to stop blaming others for your failures, and to take responsibility for your own destiny.
The value of this second point is incalculable. If you start taking control of your destiny, and stop letting others control it, you will get to the life you want. You will achieve whatever you want.
If you continue to let others sabotage you, and continue to be satisfied with blaming them and telling yourself (and others) that it wasn’t your fault, you’ll have a much harder time.