Should I tell her, that her body looks fine as it is, with the hope that she'll stop with where she is?
That won't be enough, because no matter how many times you say it, she'll never believe it. That's not her fault; it's simply a byproduct of her condition. She has a psychological disorder, and what she needs is professional help in addition to the support of her friends. I wish I could tell you how to make that happen, but she definitely needs to talk to someone who can help her get past this. Simply reassuring her isn't going to cut it.
Thanks Benton...I know how smart my sister is and I know that she will get help if she feels she needs it...but I still feel bad that she has to go through it at all, and for all the work she's done she has to turn around and tell us that she has a problem.
but I guess only time can tell what's going to happen.
and as far as next weekend. I'm supposed to go to a sorority semi-formal in DC on saturday. but if not, I'll probably go out. Friday and Sunday are free so far though...how long are planning on staying?
I'm coming up Friday for a friend's housewarming party, and staying through Saturday. I'm leaving Sunday night, so we'll likely miss each other. Drat. :-(
Telling her that she looks fine, or looks too thin, won't help because that's not the issue. Anorexia isn't about food, it's really about control. Because what you eat, when you eat, and how much you eat, are things only you can decide, even if everything else in your life is spinning out of control. What starts as an honest desire to lose a few extra pounds and tone up can spiral into a life threatening condition when combined with certain psychological factors. You start to starve yourself, or work out obsessively, and you find that you can't stop. And at that point, you really do feel like throwing up after less than a normal meal's worth of food because your stomach has shrunk to the point where it rebels against you if you exceed a few ounces at a time. There's nobody to blame; eating disorders are no more anyone's fault than depression, or bipolar disorder, or any other physiologcal condition. People can do things that will exacerbate the situation, but they're not to blame. The only thing you can do is to love your sister, show
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Thank you so much Amy...I had a mini-break down today at work, because last night when I came home, my sister and I sat down and ate some chocolate and a few left overs
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That won't be enough, because no matter how many times you say it, she'll never believe it. That's not her fault; it's simply a byproduct of her condition. She has a psychological disorder, and what she needs is professional help in addition to the support of her friends. I wish I could tell you how to make that happen, but she definitely needs to talk to someone who can help her get past this. Simply reassuring her isn't going to cut it.
Any chance I'll see you next weekend?
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but I guess only time can tell what's going to happen.
and as far as next weekend. I'm supposed to go to a sorority semi-formal in DC on saturday. but if not, I'll probably go out. Friday and Sunday are free so far though...how long are planning on staying?
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