How To Make A Culture
I've watched people establish norms in their communities and organizations. I've done some of it myself. Here's what I have seen work: Never leave, never shut up for long, keep questioning yourself and looking at the viewpoint of others, and make sure to contribute. The first person to take their ball and go home loses. Those who remain define the culture of the organization or community.
A community always belongs to those who act like "this place belongs to me as much as anyone, and I'm not going anywhere". If you don't act like that, you automatically define yourself on the outside. What will happen will surprise you. You can oppose practically anyone this way-- founders, eminence gris, it doesn't matter-- and win just by wearing them down. Just make sure to contribute value, make sure you are fair, make an effort to be visibly fair, to make sure people feel you are listening to them. Other than that, it's just an endurance competition. You can make the world the way it should be, one piece at a time.
To the atheist feminists right now, I would suggest you keep going to atheist conferences. Instead of you being so uncomfortable being around Richard Dawkins that you give up and concede that social space, contemplate the idea of making Richard Dawkins so uncomfortable that he leaves. (Or apologizes. I wouldn't put that past him.)
I don't know, what do you think?
A community always belongs to those who act like "this place belongs to me as much as anyone, and I'm not going anywhere". If you don't act like that, you automatically define yourself on the outside. What will happen will surprise you. You can oppose practically anyone this way-- founders, eminence gris, it doesn't matter-- and win just by wearing them down. Just make sure to contribute value, make sure you are fair, make an effort to be visibly fair, to make sure people feel you are listening to them. Other than that, it's just an endurance competition. You can make the world the way it should be, one piece at a time.
To the atheist feminists right now, I would suggest you keep going to atheist conferences. Instead of you being so uncomfortable being around Richard Dawkins that you give up and concede that social space, contemplate the idea of making Richard Dawkins so uncomfortable that he leaves. (Or apologizes. I wouldn't put that past him.)
I don't know, what do you think?