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[matsuei]

Love, love, love. With extra hearts and sparklies. YES. On both counts.

...not that anyone who actually needs to read that is likely to find it via my journal, or probably even metablog (where I found it), but it's always good to see someone who knows WTF they're talking about

Comments

[katsue_fox]

Well said, both to you and to the author of the post you linked! And it makes me really happy when people appreciate the value of what Penny is saying.

Really, there are a hell of a lot of misconceptions about bdsm, and I wince when people think they can use bdsm and NCS interchangeably. Ever heard the phrase "safe, sane and consensual", folks?

I sometimes wish I was more articulate (Ok, I usually wish I was more articulate!) because I have points of my own to make, but I struggle to find the words. People who don't understand bdsm have some very cliched (and in some cases, downright offensive or hurtful) notions about subs, doms and the psychology involved.

[pennypaperbrain]

*blush* Thank you! Though I feel rather timid and parochial next to the participants in that thread you linked to. It seems there's a forest of tiny subcultural distinctions out there, whereas I just tend to call everything "bdsm", so long as it meets the basic requirements which you list above. I'd rather call it "kink", actually, as that is a less unwieldly and more fun-sounding term, but I agree with most of the people in the thread that the generally accepted meaning of "kink" is too watered-down to be useful.

Though it's deliberate that none of the characters ever uses any kind of technical term in Breaking the Game, even seemingly uncontroversial ones like "scene" or "safeword". I want the action to just come across as Stuff People Do, and I think the use of jargon, which inevitably brings with it a whole bundle of preconceptions which differs from person to person, mitigates against that.

*feeds Hisoka-dom-bunny Miracle-Gro*

[ciceqi]

*mrfrgh* *looks pathetic* Dude. I need a clone just to organize my idea notebooks. And I completely forgot I said I was gonna do one of those for you! Waaaaaaaaaah. And now I have wrongness stuck in my head. Bad wrongness. Um. Lessee that bunny, then, heh, cos mine scares me.

*gives chocolate to your Dommy!Hisoka bunny*