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Love, love, love. With extra hearts and sparklies. YES. On both counts.
...not that anyone who actually needs to read that is likely to find it via my journal, or probably even metablog (where I found it), but it's always good to see someone who knows WTF they're talking about.
Of course, it touches on the whole '(how) should we use warnings' debate which will no doubt NEVER be resolved, and I tend to waffle wildly between 'no warnings whatsoever' aside from maybe 'work-safe' and 'not work-safe' on LJ entries' and 'detailed mentions of anything that I happen to remember might be somebody's squick or kink' myself, but there's a difference between the question of what you need to warn people about, and the sad fact that people who don't understand the first thing about how 'BDSM' is used by people who do it in real life are stupidly labeling stories as BDSM and more people who don't know anything about BDSM are reading those stories and thinking that the authors do know something about it and getting the entirely wrong idea, and a little more education plus the distinction between 'realistic BDSM' and 'fantasy BDSM' would go a long way toward not spreading gross misconceptions about real people who could use the additional sympathetic people that many fen might be if they were educated.
...which is one reason why I think Penny is so damned cool, because she's educating all kinds of people who otherwise wouldn't know anything about realistic BDSM, not just by talking about it, but also by putting the process of Hisoka's coming to terms with it into her story.
Now if only my fairly nebulous (only the teeth are solid!) Hisoka-dom bunny would either quit chewing on my ankles or develop past the filmy-with-big-teeth stage. Hey, ciceqi, want a bunny?
...not that anyone who actually needs to read that is likely to find it via my journal, or probably even metablog (where I found it), but it's always good to see someone who knows WTF they're talking about.
Of course, it touches on the whole '(how) should we use warnings' debate which will no doubt NEVER be resolved, and I tend to waffle wildly between 'no warnings whatsoever' aside from maybe 'work-safe' and 'not work-safe' on LJ entries' and 'detailed mentions of anything that I happen to remember might be somebody's squick or kink' myself, but there's a difference between the question of what you need to warn people about, and the sad fact that people who don't understand the first thing about how 'BDSM' is used by people who do it in real life are stupidly labeling stories as BDSM and more people who don't know anything about BDSM are reading those stories and thinking that the authors do know something about it and getting the entirely wrong idea, and a little more education plus the distinction between 'realistic BDSM' and 'fantasy BDSM' would go a long way toward not spreading gross misconceptions about real people who could use the additional sympathetic people that many fen might be if they were educated.
...which is one reason why I think Penny is so damned cool, because she's educating all kinds of people who otherwise wouldn't know anything about realistic BDSM, not just by talking about it, but also by putting the process of Hisoka's coming to terms with it into her story.
Now if only my fairly nebulous (only the teeth are solid!) Hisoka-dom bunny would either quit chewing on my ankles or develop past the filmy-with-big-teeth stage. Hey, ciceqi, want a bunny?