Bay City Has Arrived!!!
We now have sushi, sashimi, and rolls at our H.E.B.! Guess what I'm having tonight! SASHIMI!!!
Okay, so that may not seem like such a big thing but, hey, I live in a small town. Any successful attempt at adding culture and ethnic foods is appreciated. Please, oh, please do well enough that you stay around Mr. Sushi-Man!
In other news, I've been talking to this guy online. Nice guy. He's got his doctorate and is in the academic research field. He's looking for a "part time boyfriend." Which simply means someone who does their own thing and they come together every now and then and build a relationship. Which, to be honest, sounds perfect to me. I don't have the "umph" to put into spending a lot of time with someone. I'm enjoying my time by myself. It would go like any relationship should. Meet to see if you can stand to have a meal with them. Get together again if you enjoyed yourselves, kill it if you're didn't, and let it grow slowly.
I put forth in the last e-mail that, if I'm understanding him correctly, he wants someone who will be there when he has the time (which works out for me and school once next semester starts) and that person be someone who doesn't need constant attention and can take care of themselves (which works out for me because I'm very independent). That it would be someone you penciled in for a 2-3 hour block once a week that could be changed or canceled with a few hours notice. That if things changed for one or the other person, that person could go to the other and say express what they're feeling and it can be discussed. Very rational and simple relationship that starts with acquaintanceship, friendship, best friendship, and finally boyfriendhood. Someone you don't spend all your free time with and can rely upon to be an emotional support column on a bad day, send a weekly 'Hope you're well, hope your research/schoolwork goes well, looking forward to seeing you at the agreed upon designated time,' and is generally a positive influence in your life without being overly obtrusive. I don't need advice on how to run my life and I'm sure he doesn't either. And finally that, if both of us are inclined to it, a physically intimate relationship, in due time, once trust and caring have been established but not necessary for the continued exploration of the relationship.
Too often people rush into these things, and I have been guilty of it myself so no hypocrisy here, and don't allow for a slow, more organic growth. To really get to know someone over time and not investing all of one's self into something that may or may not pan out. I know what you're thinking, "You're just trying to not get hurt by not putting yourself fully out there." And you'd be right. I'm not putting myself fully out there because I don't want to get hurt. But that doesn't mean that I won't become fully invested in this guy as time goes on. Keep it strictly in the friendship zone until both people are ready to commit to something greater. Or he or I gets tired of waiting on the other person and decides to break things off before resentment develops.
Will it work out that way? He's really focused on his research and I'll soon be really focused on school and won't have a whole lot of time for the other person, which is great. It seems Win/Win. But I'm under no delusions that it couldn't be Fail/Fail. But I'll have to wait and see what his response is to my e-mail before we go getting too involved with this relationship idea. He may find the idea utterly unnatural and say that he doesn't think things would work out but good luck to me. I won't lie and say I'm not a bit impatient about a reply but I only sent the e-mail last night. He may need a few days to digest it... or not. I'm leaving it up to The Universe to decide. I put the ball in his court and it's up to him as to how he wants to pursue things. So there's that.
Beyond that, no big news to report. Still getting rejection e-mails from my queries. Upward and onward. I'll give it a few more months and then look into self-publishing on Amazon. See what all that entails. So the book may be out on the Kindle and Kindle App on the iPhone, iPod, and iPad by the middle of next year. Maybe some Agent will be scouring the self-published section for possible leads or have someone doing it for them. And I may hear from an Agent tomorrow. Who can say?
So I leave it up to you Oh Great and Powerful Wizard of Oz...
Okay, so that may not seem like such a big thing but, hey, I live in a small town. Any successful attempt at adding culture and ethnic foods is appreciated. Please, oh, please do well enough that you stay around Mr. Sushi-Man!
In other news, I've been talking to this guy online. Nice guy. He's got his doctorate and is in the academic research field. He's looking for a "part time boyfriend." Which simply means someone who does their own thing and they come together every now and then and build a relationship. Which, to be honest, sounds perfect to me. I don't have the "umph" to put into spending a lot of time with someone. I'm enjoying my time by myself. It would go like any relationship should. Meet to see if you can stand to have a meal with them. Get together again if you enjoyed yourselves, kill it if you're didn't, and let it grow slowly.
I put forth in the last e-mail that, if I'm understanding him correctly, he wants someone who will be there when he has the time (which works out for me and school once next semester starts) and that person be someone who doesn't need constant attention and can take care of themselves (which works out for me because I'm very independent). That it would be someone you penciled in for a 2-3 hour block once a week that could be changed or canceled with a few hours notice. That if things changed for one or the other person, that person could go to the other and say express what they're feeling and it can be discussed. Very rational and simple relationship that starts with acquaintanceship, friendship, best friendship, and finally boyfriendhood. Someone you don't spend all your free time with and can rely upon to be an emotional support column on a bad day, send a weekly 'Hope you're well, hope your research/schoolwork goes well, looking forward to seeing you at the agreed upon designated time,' and is generally a positive influence in your life without being overly obtrusive. I don't need advice on how to run my life and I'm sure he doesn't either. And finally that, if both of us are inclined to it, a physically intimate relationship, in due time, once trust and caring have been established but not necessary for the continued exploration of the relationship.
Too often people rush into these things, and I have been guilty of it myself so no hypocrisy here, and don't allow for a slow, more organic growth. To really get to know someone over time and not investing all of one's self into something that may or may not pan out. I know what you're thinking, "You're just trying to not get hurt by not putting yourself fully out there." And you'd be right. I'm not putting myself fully out there because I don't want to get hurt. But that doesn't mean that I won't become fully invested in this guy as time goes on. Keep it strictly in the friendship zone until both people are ready to commit to something greater. Or he or I gets tired of waiting on the other person and decides to break things off before resentment develops.
Will it work out that way? He's really focused on his research and I'll soon be really focused on school and won't have a whole lot of time for the other person, which is great. It seems Win/Win. But I'm under no delusions that it couldn't be Fail/Fail. But I'll have to wait and see what his response is to my e-mail before we go getting too involved with this relationship idea. He may find the idea utterly unnatural and say that he doesn't think things would work out but good luck to me. I won't lie and say I'm not a bit impatient about a reply but I only sent the e-mail last night. He may need a few days to digest it... or not. I'm leaving it up to The Universe to decide. I put the ball in his court and it's up to him as to how he wants to pursue things. So there's that.
Beyond that, no big news to report. Still getting rejection e-mails from my queries. Upward and onward. I'll give it a few more months and then look into self-publishing on Amazon. See what all that entails. So the book may be out on the Kindle and Kindle App on the iPhone, iPod, and iPad by the middle of next year. Maybe some Agent will be scouring the self-published section for possible leads or have someone doing it for them. And I may hear from an Agent tomorrow. Who can say?
So I leave it up to you Oh Great and Powerful Wizard of Oz...