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Every so often in my day to day travels an event occurs that make me lose a little faith in the goodness of people. Last night, one of these events occured.
The neigbours were having a party, in celebration of the one girl's birthday a couple days ago. It was quite fun. Lots of food and drinks, and a nice fire on the beach. I only knew a few people there, and I don't know any of them very well, so I was trying to be sociable so that I was not just sitting on a log all by myself. One of the people I was chatting with was the boyfriend of the birthday girl. I've hung out with him a couple times before at other parties, and I came to the opinion that he was a nice friendly guy. So we are all sitting around the fire hanging out. Slowly people start packing it in for the night. By about 1:30, there were only 4 of us left at the campfire, and we decided to head in. So the two other people are walking ahead of us. My cottage is just to the left, so I stop to say "see ya later" before I head off. At this point, he looks at me, and says "I've always wanted to hold you and kiss you" and then starts moving in! I am totally shocked, and I manage to dodge him. I don't know what to do, so I just say, "oh, you're a nice guy. you should be nice to your girlfriend" and then I take off for my cottage right away. I was quite upset. Up until that point I thought he really was a nice guy, but was he just being nice to me because he just wanted to hold me and kiss me??? There are all those cynical people out there who say all men are pigs, and that they are only nice to you if they want to sleep with you. I have decided not to prescribe to this camp, since I think I know a few guys who aren't pigs, and I myself am nice to people even if I don't want to sleep with them. I would like to think this goes both ways. But if more events like this happen, maybe I will switch camps. I also feel really bad for his girlfriend. He was drunk and stoned... but that is no excuse! So now I have to decide what to do. Do I
a) Pretend nothing happened, hoping that he's never done that before and won't ever again, and that she doesn't waste years of her life with a cheater. This is definitely the easiest option, and I'm leaving in less than a week anyway.
b) Talk to him privately, to voice my opinion that if he's going to try and cheat on someone he pobably shouldn't be with them in the first place, and that he should be honest with his girlfriend. This way I would feel like I was fulfilling some sort of moral obligation, yet still avoiding any sort of drama.
c) Go next door and expose him for the cheater that he is in front of all of their friends and roommates. I'm sure that this girl would really appreciate someone she barely knows telling her that he boyfriend of several years is a cheater. But then if someone was cheating on me, or trying to anyways, I'd want to know, regardless of who told me.
The neigbours were having a party, in celebration of the one girl's birthday a couple days ago. It was quite fun. Lots of food and drinks, and a nice fire on the beach. I only knew a few people there, and I don't know any of them very well, so I was trying to be sociable so that I was not just sitting on a log all by myself. One of the people I was chatting with was the boyfriend of the birthday girl. I've hung out with him a couple times before at other parties, and I came to the opinion that he was a nice friendly guy. So we are all sitting around the fire hanging out. Slowly people start packing it in for the night. By about 1:30, there were only 4 of us left at the campfire, and we decided to head in. So the two other people are walking ahead of us. My cottage is just to the left, so I stop to say "see ya later" before I head off. At this point, he looks at me, and says "I've always wanted to hold you and kiss you" and then starts moving in! I am totally shocked, and I manage to dodge him. I don't know what to do, so I just say, "oh, you're a nice guy. you should be nice to your girlfriend" and then I take off for my cottage right away. I was quite upset. Up until that point I thought he really was a nice guy, but was he just being nice to me because he just wanted to hold me and kiss me??? There are all those cynical people out there who say all men are pigs, and that they are only nice to you if they want to sleep with you. I have decided not to prescribe to this camp, since I think I know a few guys who aren't pigs, and I myself am nice to people even if I don't want to sleep with them. I would like to think this goes both ways. But if more events like this happen, maybe I will switch camps. I also feel really bad for his girlfriend. He was drunk and stoned... but that is no excuse! So now I have to decide what to do. Do I
a) Pretend nothing happened, hoping that he's never done that before and won't ever again, and that she doesn't waste years of her life with a cheater. This is definitely the easiest option, and I'm leaving in less than a week anyway.
b) Talk to him privately, to voice my opinion that if he's going to try and cheat on someone he pobably shouldn't be with them in the first place, and that he should be honest with his girlfriend. This way I would feel like I was fulfilling some sort of moral obligation, yet still avoiding any sort of drama.
c) Go next door and expose him for the cheater that he is in front of all of their friends and roommates. I'm sure that this girl would really appreciate someone she barely knows telling her that he boyfriend of several years is a cheater. But then if someone was cheating on me, or trying to anyways, I'd want to know, regardless of who told me.