Rough day...
Today was a particularly bad day at work.
First, I was addressed as "little miss" by someone.
Second, while I was discussing an issue with someone, I started talking with my hands to demonstrate certain aspects of the problem. This person with whom I was discussing made a point of grabbing my hands and holding them while talking about things. I wanted to yell, "No Touchy!"
(I will hug and touch friends, but I don't feel comfortable with it in a work setting...even my husband, most of the time. And no, it wasn't my husband.)
What do you want to bet this coworker would never consider doing that to a male colleague?
Finally, I suggested a way to make one of our processes more efficient. The response was that one of my colleagues started to yell at me, and the things he was yelling had nothing to do with the suggestion and was all about his resistance to one of the things I stated about the project. When I tried to explain that wasn't what I was talking about, he started making excuses as to why my suggestion wouldn't work. At some point, my supervisor had to jump in and tell him he was wrong. At that point, I just quit talking.
On the up side, I was vindicated later in the day when it turned out that this person was wrong about the stuff he was ranting on and that I managed to get my work done despite our process problem.
But it sure went downhill before it went back up. That's always rough.
First, I was addressed as "little miss" by someone.
Second, while I was discussing an issue with someone, I started talking with my hands to demonstrate certain aspects of the problem. This person with whom I was discussing made a point of grabbing my hands and holding them while talking about things. I wanted to yell, "No Touchy!"
(I will hug and touch friends, but I don't feel comfortable with it in a work setting...even my husband, most of the time. And no, it wasn't my husband.)
What do you want to bet this coworker would never consider doing that to a male colleague?
Finally, I suggested a way to make one of our processes more efficient. The response was that one of my colleagues started to yell at me, and the things he was yelling had nothing to do with the suggestion and was all about his resistance to one of the things I stated about the project. When I tried to explain that wasn't what I was talking about, he started making excuses as to why my suggestion wouldn't work. At some point, my supervisor had to jump in and tell him he was wrong. At that point, I just quit talking.
On the up side, I was vindicated later in the day when it turned out that this person was wrong about the stuff he was ranting on and that I managed to get my work done despite our process problem.
But it sure went downhill before it went back up. That's always rough.