Talk About Drama
I've had some time to calm myself so that I wouldn't come on here blowing my stack and saying things I'd regret later. However, I am still pretty upset. Once again after a family function Jason's brother had to come online and start talking crap to Jason. Every time we see Jason's side of the family Adrian has to start in on us about how "self-centered", "immature" and just plain awful we are. This is a huge reason why I don't want to spend time with Jason's family. I get sick and tired of dealing with the bull-shit that comes afterwards. Honestly I think better of his parents than to talk about us behind our backs and then have Adrian come and say something to our faces. Not like he's a saint himself since we know for a fact he lied to his mother when we visited for Christmas and was probably stretching the truth of what he told us after we got home. He's always trying to make it sound like we are just selfish nasty people and we hurt everyone's feelings when we are around. If that's the case then I'll be all too happy to not see that side of the family at all anymore. Wouldn't want to keep putting them through the torture of having us around since we're such horrible people. First off for this last trip Adrian wasn't there so it wasn't his place to say anything at all. Even if he had been there it's not his place. If his parents have a problem with us then they should come and say something directly to us instead of talking to Adrian about it and then him coming after us. Lately all he can do is talk down to Jason and tell Jason that he needs to wake up to the real world, yadda yadda. Personally it's a big whoop-de-freakin'-do if Jason is into computers and video games. That doesn't mean he doesn't know about the real world or that he's irrisponsible. There are people out there making these games for a living... I'm sure they know about the real world.
Just because the real world for us is not the real world for Adrian doesn't mean we live in some alternate reality. So he's going to Iraq and he could come back seriously wounded or not at all. We understand that, we aren't dense... but what does he want us to do about it? Mourn him before anything has happened? Iraq isn't our reality. Jason and I like to play games and watch movies but we pay our bills. Jason works and he is taking online classes to earn a degree. He's already earned an Associates of Buisness degree. Sure Jason isn't always mature but I don't know a single person on this earth who is, maybe my grandparents but even then I'm sure they have their moments. The point is that Jason tries and he tries to learn from his mistakes and make changes. He doesn't dwell on crap (and even I know I have that problem). Jason doesn't try to start problems with other people either. Obviously his brother has yet to learn these things. Yay for Adrian for being more responsible with money... he's also four years older than Jason and Jason is a hell of a lot more mature emotionally. As petty as it sounds we're calling Jason's parents tomorrow to have a talk with them. First off to find out if we actually did do something that hurt their feelings and if they were telling Adrian what he said they did. If not then we're going to let them know that Adrian has harassed us every time we've gotten together with that side of the family and that we're not going to tolerate it anymore. If they did say those things we'll let them know that they need to come to us about them and not to Adrian because he obviously can't keep things confidential. I'm also going to let them know that if they can't be more grown up about this and if they think we're such awful people then we just won't participate in family events with them anymore.
I also had a thought the other day... do you ever wonder if there's anyone you know who is crazy enough to do something like you hear on the news? Like murder someone, or even better... murder a pregnant woman for her baby and then try to pass it off as your own. Things like that. Do their friends and family ever suspect they might be a little off their rocker or does it come as a shock? I suppose going from the news both cases are true but more often than not it's a total suprise to many people. It's amazing that people can keep up a ruse for so long like being pregnant or whatever. Maybe my pregnant brain is making me have these weird thoughts about people trying to steal my baby or maybe I'm just a freak! Of course I'm sure that the women it has happened to never expected it to happen... that should mean I'm safe right? Because I more expect it to happen means it shouldn't happen to me... hmmmm. Lately I just always wonder who I can trust and who I can't. I hate that sort of guessing game and making the wrong guess really makes you out to be an ass.
On a happy note! My parents went to the dealership today and drove home our new minivan!!!!! The soonest they can probably ship it off is a week from Tuesday though and the Matson webpage says to allow three to five weeks for shipping. I'm just hoping it gets here before July 6th because Madison starts swim lessons that day and I will definately be needing my own vehicle to drive. This next Thursday I will also be starting to watch that little girl and it'd be very nice to have a larger vehicle (not to mention my own vehicle so I don't have to depend on Jason's work schedule) to transport the children in. I don't think I'll be able to handle sitting at home all day with two children by myself. I'll have to take them to the pool or the zoo or something to keep my sanity. I also bought a double stroller... well more accurately my mom bought it with my grandma's help... and my mom is going to try to ship it over in the van. I'm going to need that so that I can keep going for my walks with two kids. Like I said, I don't want to stop exercising just because I have to watch another child but I guess I could always go back to going on evening walks only. Lately I've only been walking in the mornings anyhow because by the time the evening gets here I'm worn out and only feel like walking as far as the dog park and back.
I've been feeling the baby thumping around in there pretty strongly the last week. Now that I can feel it the pregnancy is more real and exciting to me. I can't wait until Tuesday for my ultrasound so I can see the baby and find out if it's a she or a he! This pregnancy has been so much more enjoyable than my last one. Most of it is probably due to the fact that I actually wanted to be pregnant this time and I didn't get the morning sickness with this one either. Holy craps it's getting late and I've written a short story!
Just because the real world for us is not the real world for Adrian doesn't mean we live in some alternate reality. So he's going to Iraq and he could come back seriously wounded or not at all. We understand that, we aren't dense... but what does he want us to do about it? Mourn him before anything has happened? Iraq isn't our reality. Jason and I like to play games and watch movies but we pay our bills. Jason works and he is taking online classes to earn a degree. He's already earned an Associates of Buisness degree. Sure Jason isn't always mature but I don't know a single person on this earth who is, maybe my grandparents but even then I'm sure they have their moments. The point is that Jason tries and he tries to learn from his mistakes and make changes. He doesn't dwell on crap (and even I know I have that problem). Jason doesn't try to start problems with other people either. Obviously his brother has yet to learn these things. Yay for Adrian for being more responsible with money... he's also four years older than Jason and Jason is a hell of a lot more mature emotionally. As petty as it sounds we're calling Jason's parents tomorrow to have a talk with them. First off to find out if we actually did do something that hurt their feelings and if they were telling Adrian what he said they did. If not then we're going to let them know that Adrian has harassed us every time we've gotten together with that side of the family and that we're not going to tolerate it anymore. If they did say those things we'll let them know that they need to come to us about them and not to Adrian because he obviously can't keep things confidential. I'm also going to let them know that if they can't be more grown up about this and if they think we're such awful people then we just won't participate in family events with them anymore.
I also had a thought the other day... do you ever wonder if there's anyone you know who is crazy enough to do something like you hear on the news? Like murder someone, or even better... murder a pregnant woman for her baby and then try to pass it off as your own. Things like that. Do their friends and family ever suspect they might be a little off their rocker or does it come as a shock? I suppose going from the news both cases are true but more often than not it's a total suprise to many people. It's amazing that people can keep up a ruse for so long like being pregnant or whatever. Maybe my pregnant brain is making me have these weird thoughts about people trying to steal my baby or maybe I'm just a freak! Of course I'm sure that the women it has happened to never expected it to happen... that should mean I'm safe right? Because I more expect it to happen means it shouldn't happen to me... hmmmm. Lately I just always wonder who I can trust and who I can't. I hate that sort of guessing game and making the wrong guess really makes you out to be an ass.
On a happy note! My parents went to the dealership today and drove home our new minivan!!!!! The soonest they can probably ship it off is a week from Tuesday though and the Matson webpage says to allow three to five weeks for shipping. I'm just hoping it gets here before July 6th because Madison starts swim lessons that day and I will definately be needing my own vehicle to drive. This next Thursday I will also be starting to watch that little girl and it'd be very nice to have a larger vehicle (not to mention my own vehicle so I don't have to depend on Jason's work schedule) to transport the children in. I don't think I'll be able to handle sitting at home all day with two children by myself. I'll have to take them to the pool or the zoo or something to keep my sanity. I also bought a double stroller... well more accurately my mom bought it with my grandma's help... and my mom is going to try to ship it over in the van. I'm going to need that so that I can keep going for my walks with two kids. Like I said, I don't want to stop exercising just because I have to watch another child but I guess I could always go back to going on evening walks only. Lately I've only been walking in the mornings anyhow because by the time the evening gets here I'm worn out and only feel like walking as far as the dog park and back.
I've been feeling the baby thumping around in there pretty strongly the last week. Now that I can feel it the pregnancy is more real and exciting to me. I can't wait until Tuesday for my ultrasound so I can see the baby and find out if it's a she or a he! This pregnancy has been so much more enjoyable than my last one. Most of it is probably due to the fact that I actually wanted to be pregnant this time and I didn't get the morning sickness with this one either. Holy craps it's getting late and I've written a short story!