Eating Crow
Before I start into this new subject, let me first add a caveat to what I said the other day. there are people whom I look to for opinions and advice. The ladies I know here, are among those people. Lan, I would hope you know that just being able to chat with you IRL heps me with a lot of things. I just become irritated when people offer there unsolicited insight into my life, my marriage and my family. All of which they know nothing about. Make sense?
Anyway, Matt and were tlaking last night about all of things we said pre-baby and had a good laugh. But we delved into why we thought the things we did back then. I discovered that my parents routines had a lot to do with what I thought was right and wrong. But I was wrong about my parents. My dad and my bio mom, Robbi, never went out together. I attributed their divorce to this, and sometimes, to this alone. The reality is that they enver went out together because they truly didn't like each other. It's not that they didn't like each other because they didn't have dates. It was the other way around. My dad and Robbi were never a good match. Not from the beginning and certainly not towards the end. My dad and my mom? They go out alone fairly regularly. They had to. They got married and started their life together with 4 kids between the ages of 5 and 12. But they are meant to be together. Their marriage would be strong whetehr they went out alone or not. They like each other, faults and all. They have a solid foundation. What I failed to take into account in my pre-baby eval of their situations was that that one factor (date night) was not the be all end all of their relationships. It was simply one choice that they had made in a lfielong journey.
There are so many things I said I would/would never do before Thomas was born that it boggles my mind. It just astonishes me that I thought I knew so much before I became a parent. This babe humbles me every day with how little I really know.
Anyway, Matt and were tlaking last night about all of things we said pre-baby and had a good laugh. But we delved into why we thought the things we did back then. I discovered that my parents routines had a lot to do with what I thought was right and wrong. But I was wrong about my parents. My dad and my bio mom, Robbi, never went out together. I attributed their divorce to this, and sometimes, to this alone. The reality is that they enver went out together because they truly didn't like each other. It's not that they didn't like each other because they didn't have dates. It was the other way around. My dad and Robbi were never a good match. Not from the beginning and certainly not towards the end. My dad and my mom? They go out alone fairly regularly. They had to. They got married and started their life together with 4 kids between the ages of 5 and 12. But they are meant to be together. Their marriage would be strong whetehr they went out alone or not. They like each other, faults and all. They have a solid foundation. What I failed to take into account in my pre-baby eval of their situations was that that one factor (date night) was not the be all end all of their relationships. It was simply one choice that they had made in a lfielong journey.
There are so many things I said I would/would never do before Thomas was born that it boggles my mind. It just astonishes me that I thought I knew so much before I became a parent. This babe humbles me every day with how little I really know.