LOL or WTF, cannot decide…
My twin brother's house is about 100 yards from mine. He has an odd, shift work sort of schedule so I tend to visit him there. Actually, in the past year he's only come to my house once.
Yesterday, he and I were discussing a collaborative writing project and after a while it seemed to be a good time to recommend that that would sometimes mean brainstorming at my house.
Clearly - based on his reaction - this was and aggressive and confrontational thing to say. I had honestly thought I was seeking to foster amity between us. Not all twins get along in that happy, psychic, best friends forever way that Hollywood seems to want to sell.
Frank's alternative to leaving his house once in a while was that our brainstorming take the form of letters and parcels via the postal service - and he even suggested that we could drop things off at each other's doors if the other wasn't home.
I said, "Frank, that's ridiculous." And I still think it is. Dropping a note at my house means your are already at my house.
Since I'm often not the most traditional in my problem-solving, I sometimes have to pause and wonder if I'm seeing the situation properly. This reaction and suggestion from Frank was one of those moments. I've talked to a number of folks including a friend of mine who is a rabbi and no one thinks what Frank was suggesting is a rational solution.
Keep in mind that this is the same person who said he "forgot" my birthday five years ago. I'll remind you that we are twins, at this point. While it might seem that five years is plenty of time to forgive and forget the simple matter of someone forgetting your birthday - it has more or less colored my relationship with him since then. I'm left with the feeling that Frank cannot really be expected to…
I'm going to guess that there will not be a collaboration on a story. And about the whole affair - the rabbi just said, "Wow."
Yesterday, he and I were discussing a collaborative writing project and after a while it seemed to be a good time to recommend that that would sometimes mean brainstorming at my house.
Clearly - based on his reaction - this was and aggressive and confrontational thing to say. I had honestly thought I was seeking to foster amity between us. Not all twins get along in that happy, psychic, best friends forever way that Hollywood seems to want to sell.
Frank's alternative to leaving his house once in a while was that our brainstorming take the form of letters and parcels via the postal service - and he even suggested that we could drop things off at each other's doors if the other wasn't home.
I said, "Frank, that's ridiculous." And I still think it is. Dropping a note at my house means your are already at my house.
Since I'm often not the most traditional in my problem-solving, I sometimes have to pause and wonder if I'm seeing the situation properly. This reaction and suggestion from Frank was one of those moments. I've talked to a number of folks including a friend of mine who is a rabbi and no one thinks what Frank was suggesting is a rational solution.
Keep in mind that this is the same person who said he "forgot" my birthday five years ago. I'll remind you that we are twins, at this point. While it might seem that five years is plenty of time to forgive and forget the simple matter of someone forgetting your birthday - it has more or less colored my relationship with him since then. I'm left with the feeling that Frank cannot really be expected to…
I'm going to guess that there will not be a collaboration on a story. And about the whole affair - the rabbi just said, "Wow."