I sincerely hope they aren't trying to delay you to the point where you lose your option to settle. Because it is your choice and it shouldn't affect their defence. I think they need to understand that it's your money, and your choice to get Stacey off your back.
There's also the concept of "cutting your losses" which has nothing to do with "taking the easy way out". You've looked rationally at what it would cost you to fight this thing, and that even if you won, you'd be giving up the inestimable value of having Stacy out of your life. But to spend even more money trying to defend, only to end up paying the claim after all? That isn't helpful for anyone. Maybe your roommates just need a reality check. I mean, hey, you could fight the case just on the principle of Justice, but that had better make you feel damn good if it's the only thing you get out of it.
Seriously, though, if they've had their "few days", then by all that is holy, don't wait to hear from them to contact Stacey. I know you're probably trying to be as diplomatic as possible, because you still want to get along with them, but it's not worth it if there's any chance that they'll make you miss your chance to settle, intentionally or otherwise.
Sorry if I'm coming across harsh. I know they're your friends. Maybe they just don't realize the situation they're putting you in.
*hugs* Let me know if you can get away for a couple of days next month. Doesn't have to be the 21st - we're always happy to have you.
OK wah, I know that this is a really emotional issue and all, but just for the record I was not offended that you desided to settle. I'm not disappoint, I'm not angry. I asked you to wait to make sure that if you did this that I wouldnt' HAVE as well, because I wante dto make sure that each of us could MAKE THEIR OWN DESISION. I have no idea what exactly has been said that I don't know about, but I mean our decisions do effect each toehr, but not to the point of life and death or anything. I understand the emotions that are being slung aroudn here, and I know abotu other shitty things happening in our lives (hello huge break up here *points to self*) But I think the only way that we loose this is if it comes between us. And just in my defence, and I am so NOT trying to poitn fingers but rather show the two sides of the coin (no pun in referrence to this money thing) I did ask you to wait, and I didnt' get back to you cuz I'm STILL waiting for answers form oputside people.... but Holly you never did get back to me. I mean a livejournal post isn't eactly contacting me.... *sigh* We know that Stacey is a bitch, we know that it's only money and that just throwing it at her will shut her up, we know that she doesn't DESERVE any of it, and we know that we all have our own veiws on this even if on the surface we seem to agree. Basically Holly do as you wish, no strings attatched, but you can't get upset at us either because this is a two way street.
*hugs* Girl life is going to throw things at us like there is no tomorrow, and we will nto always see eye to eye and, it's possible, we may not even remain friends throw it all. But if you are always true to you then in years to come you'll never have to use us as an excuse or blame us, because you can't build a life always looking back and saying 'if only I hadn't listened to someone else'
Hello, person I don't know (but presumably one of the roomies).
I hope you know that my vehemence is just that - mine. I'm assuming that you just clicked the wrong link in replying to my comment, but I really hope you aren't reading what I wrote in response to Holly's post as reflecting her feelings... because it doesn't reflect anything said to me privately about you (there hasn't *been* anything) - it's just my own defensiveness at seeing a friend stuck in a bad situation and certain prejudices of my own (having just escaped a year of crappy-roommates). I'll shut up now. ;)
I really hate my landlord. I just found out that even though she's gonna accept my settlement, she won't do it until I file a defence. It's beyond ridiculous and I'm so fed up with it. Now I have to find a way to get to Guelph before Thursday to file these stupid papers. *hangs head*
About the visit? I'll have to get back to you later this week about that.
*hugs* Thanks for the support. Talk to you soon. Muah!
There's also the concept of "cutting your losses" which has nothing to do with "taking the easy way out". You've looked rationally at what it would cost you to fight this thing, and that even if you won, you'd be giving up the inestimable value of having Stacy out of your life. But to spend even more money trying to defend, only to end up paying the claim after all? That isn't helpful for anyone. Maybe your roommates just need a reality check. I mean, hey, you could fight the case just on the principle of Justice, but that had better make you feel damn good if it's the only thing you get out of it.
Seriously, though, if they've had their "few days", then by all that is holy, don't wait to hear from them to contact Stacey. I know you're probably trying to be as diplomatic as possible, because you still want to get along with them, but it's not worth it if there's any chance that they'll make you miss your chance to settle, intentionally or otherwise.
Sorry if I'm coming across harsh. I know they're your friends. Maybe they just don't realize the situation they're putting you in.
*hugs* Let me know if you can get away for a couple of days next month. Doesn't have to be the 21st - we're always happy to have you.
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I understand the emotions that are being slung aroudn here, and I know abotu other shitty things happening in our lives (hello huge break up here *points to self*) But I think the only way that we loose this is if it comes between us.
And just in my defence, and I am so NOT trying to poitn fingers but rather show the two sides of the coin (no pun in referrence to this money thing) I did ask you to wait, and I didnt' get back to you cuz I'm STILL waiting for answers form oputside people.... but Holly you never did get back to me. I mean a livejournal post isn't eactly contacting me....
*sigh* We know that Stacey is a bitch, we know that it's only money and that just throwing it at her will shut her up, we know that she doesn't DESERVE any of it, and we know that we all have our own veiws on this even if on the surface we seem to agree.
Basically Holly do as you wish, no strings attatched, but you can't get upset at us either because this is a two way street.
*hugs* Girl life is going to throw things at us like there is no tomorrow, and we will nto always see eye to eye and, it's possible, we may not even remain friends throw it all. But if you are always true to you then in years to come you'll never have to use us as an excuse or blame us, because you can't build a life always looking back and saying 'if only I hadn't listened to someone else'
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I hope you know that my vehemence is just that - mine. I'm assuming that you just clicked the wrong link in replying to my comment, but I really hope you aren't reading what I wrote in response to Holly's post as reflecting her feelings... because it doesn't reflect anything said to me privately about you (there hasn't *been* anything) - it's just my own defensiveness at seeing a friend stuck in a bad situation and certain prejudices of my own (having just escaped a year of crappy-roommates). I'll shut up now. ;)
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I really hate my landlord. I just found out that even though she's gonna accept my settlement, she won't do it until I file a defence. It's beyond ridiculous and I'm so fed up with it. Now I have to find a way to get to Guelph before Thursday to file these stupid papers. *hangs head*
About the visit? I'll have to get back to you later this week about that.
*hugs* Thanks for the support. Talk to you soon. Muah!
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