Denial Chatter
Was forced to fall asleep, since I had pushed myself in morning, before early therapy was complete. Tiny nap helped, but now extremely woozy. Possibly COVID, spike. Went out to van and got tape, and sprayed remaining bad patch with clothes silicon. Quick fix.
I came up with concept of, "denial chatter," yesterday... You may notice that many people who are cornered during an assault, rape or other danger - especially women - will suddenly start thinking to themselves, something like, "I hope my stockings don't run." Or, "Who's going to water the lawn?" Or, "And I just curled my hair!" And so on. Really, really pointless, irrelevant thoughts, or even speech. These people could be on their way to empty eternity, and all they think about is, "Oh, I remember that house, from grade school!" WHY does this happen?
Well, I am sure it basically just happens the way having a pissing accident happens - the para/sympathetic get all warped up, and so does the brain. But, maybe another thing is this:
All day, many people fill up their time with idle chatter. They end up doing dumb thnigs like telling someone to, "have a great day!" when it is now 10:pm. They gossip about people. They process bank checks. Their minds wander off while watching a boring soap opera. They make plans for buying a jaguar on their next imaginary trip to Bermuda. They run through the same identical scripts with each other during shopping interactions, each and every day. They talk the ear off their boyfriend about their did-nothing day. They bump into other males and talk stupid sports or cars or tools, to no point. All of this talk is a mainly a means of escaping the threat of being trapped by the moment, or the situaiton at hand. A way of proving one is in control. By using weapons of paper. Most of it all is already denial chatter. In fact, the most trivial of it tends to be the most helpful at protecting denial. The most absurd, the most successful, sometimes. So, you look out over this mass of chatterboxes, and wonder why and how they are so lame.
But, that's not all they are. And they ARE capable of real thought, deeper talk, strong relationships, etc. It's just all this OTHER stuff, that fills up their days, like packing peanuts.
Well, this chatter increases in intensity, the more nervous such people get. So, threatened with DEATH, many people do, indeed, fall back on denial chatter, because that is the most practiced and familiar and close-at-hand thing to do. Here's their chance to actually experience the most real of real experiences, and their response is to blurt out random baking tips.
And, for similar reasons, the instant some narcissists are actually faced with real push-back, they run away screaming, "terrorist!"
"The great thing about human language is that it prevents us from sticking to the matter at hand." - Lewis Thomas
I came up with concept of, "denial chatter," yesterday... You may notice that many people who are cornered during an assault, rape or other danger - especially women - will suddenly start thinking to themselves, something like, "I hope my stockings don't run." Or, "Who's going to water the lawn?" Or, "And I just curled my hair!" And so on. Really, really pointless, irrelevant thoughts, or even speech. These people could be on their way to empty eternity, and all they think about is, "Oh, I remember that house, from grade school!" WHY does this happen?
Well, I am sure it basically just happens the way having a pissing accident happens - the para/sympathetic get all warped up, and so does the brain. But, maybe another thing is this:
All day, many people fill up their time with idle chatter. They end up doing dumb thnigs like telling someone to, "have a great day!" when it is now 10:pm. They gossip about people. They process bank checks. Their minds wander off while watching a boring soap opera. They make plans for buying a jaguar on their next imaginary trip to Bermuda. They run through the same identical scripts with each other during shopping interactions, each and every day. They talk the ear off their boyfriend about their did-nothing day. They bump into other males and talk stupid sports or cars or tools, to no point. All of this talk is a mainly a means of escaping the threat of being trapped by the moment, or the situaiton at hand. A way of proving one is in control. By using weapons of paper. Most of it all is already denial chatter. In fact, the most trivial of it tends to be the most helpful at protecting denial. The most absurd, the most successful, sometimes. So, you look out over this mass of chatterboxes, and wonder why and how they are so lame.
But, that's not all they are. And they ARE capable of real thought, deeper talk, strong relationships, etc. It's just all this OTHER stuff, that fills up their days, like packing peanuts.
Well, this chatter increases in intensity, the more nervous such people get. So, threatened with DEATH, many people do, indeed, fall back on denial chatter, because that is the most practiced and familiar and close-at-hand thing to do. Here's their chance to actually experience the most real of real experiences, and their response is to blurt out random baking tips.
And, for similar reasons, the instant some narcissists are actually faced with real push-back, they run away screaming, "terrorist!"
"The great thing about human language is that it prevents us from sticking to the matter at hand." - Lewis Thomas