PAYBACK'S A BIATCH!
Ok.... I don't think that I was that difficult or horrible of a kid growing up. I respected my parents, and after talking to my mom about how I was growing up, she agrees that I was respectful. I did cross the lines a few times, but I also learned from my mistakes.... by belt ...not to ever do it again.
Now... I'm raising a teen of my own and I think the man upstairs DOES have a sense of humor, or paying me back or something. Although E. is not my biological son, I love him and help Stefanie raise him as my own. When I first started dating Stef, E. was just ten years old and a great kid... he just turned 14 and I still love him, but he so needs his butt busted with a belt like my parents did to me growing up. Just over the past year he has turned into a little heathen, thinking the we owe him everything, that he knows everything, that we are obviously stupid people, and that he can do as he pleases. First it started with wanting to grow his hair out... we fought this at first, but then gave in... I mean long hair... no big deal. The attitude has gone downhill from there... arguments with teachers (authority), being sent to the office for passing notes with dirty words on it, getting into a fight with two kids at lunch over wiping butter on one another, to getting angry at home anytime he is disciplined (grounded for his bad decisions) and punching doors and breaking his hand. Right there is enough to tell me that he has some anger issues. Well it moved from hair, to his clothing... wearing everything black... telling him that he can't buy or wear certain shirts... then going out and buying them behind our backs. Grades slowly dropping from A's to C's. Got a girlfriend that is sweet and very nice, but can tell everytime he talks to her that he is rude and disrespectful to her as well. Listening to music that even I wouldn't listen to... mostly Punk bands... but once again disregarding our authority and listening to stuff that has parental advisory labels... F this and F that, which we have told him are unacceptable in our house or for him. Recently gotten grounded from the use of the computer for his mis-use... figure that out. He can now only use it for school under our close supervision. He has started lying to my face, and being very disrespectful to me. Attitude..... attitude.... attitude....
Well Friday we took him and a bunch of his friends for his birthday party to Gameworks. We didn't exactly have the money for it, but we took our Christmas money that we received from my Mom in order to pay for a good party for him. I got off work early in order to go to Verizon Wireless to buy him a new cell phone and add him to our plan for one of his presents. Something that I really did not want to do, but talked it out with Stef and said that I would give it a try. The party was great, he and his friends had a good time, and he cleaned up with cash for presents... no problems. Took him to stay the weekend with his friend after the party. We got home about 10:30 - 11PM and I was online checking email and such... somehow I ended up watching him talk to his girlfriend online for about an hour until about 12:30am from his friends house. Remember.... he was grounded from using the computer... any computer. At the same time on his profile I found some VERY unacceptable links, including his new favorite band which is extremely against the government and society. Not acceptable.
Long story short.... Stef and I cleared his entire room of EVERYTHING before he returned home Sunday on his actual birthday. We warned him, he took the chance and now he has to start all over by gaining our respect and trust first. Some of his stuff was boxed up and put away, some will be put on eBay, and the rest went to the curb. He started with an average boy's room... posters everywhere, pirate flag covering the black blinds covering the window, one wall with a cool mural that he is painting with two crossed guitars, black bed, black entertainment center, big TV, VCR, DVD, cd Stereo player, black electric guitar and amp, brand new black acoustic... etc. Spoiled! Now his room is freshly painted white leaving the mural alone, new white blinds, no electronics, no guitars... nothing but a blank entertainment center, a bed and most of his clothes. When he returned home he was not happy to say the least.... we gave and he took never giving anything back. Now he has to start from scratch... hopefully his attitude will change for the better and he will gain back what I don't plan on selling. Long weekend!
Like I said before.... I know that I was never this bad, but I know I put my Mom through some hell and now it's coming back to bite me in the butt. I need a drink.... BAD!
MD
Now... I'm raising a teen of my own and I think the man upstairs DOES have a sense of humor, or paying me back or something. Although E. is not my biological son, I love him and help Stefanie raise him as my own. When I first started dating Stef, E. was just ten years old and a great kid... he just turned 14 and I still love him, but he so needs his butt busted with a belt like my parents did to me growing up. Just over the past year he has turned into a little heathen, thinking the we owe him everything, that he knows everything, that we are obviously stupid people, and that he can do as he pleases. First it started with wanting to grow his hair out... we fought this at first, but then gave in... I mean long hair... no big deal. The attitude has gone downhill from there... arguments with teachers (authority), being sent to the office for passing notes with dirty words on it, getting into a fight with two kids at lunch over wiping butter on one another, to getting angry at home anytime he is disciplined (grounded for his bad decisions) and punching doors and breaking his hand. Right there is enough to tell me that he has some anger issues. Well it moved from hair, to his clothing... wearing everything black... telling him that he can't buy or wear certain shirts... then going out and buying them behind our backs. Grades slowly dropping from A's to C's. Got a girlfriend that is sweet and very nice, but can tell everytime he talks to her that he is rude and disrespectful to her as well. Listening to music that even I wouldn't listen to... mostly Punk bands... but once again disregarding our authority and listening to stuff that has parental advisory labels... F this and F that, which we have told him are unacceptable in our house or for him. Recently gotten grounded from the use of the computer for his mis-use... figure that out. He can now only use it for school under our close supervision. He has started lying to my face, and being very disrespectful to me. Attitude..... attitude.... attitude....
Well Friday we took him and a bunch of his friends for his birthday party to Gameworks. We didn't exactly have the money for it, but we took our Christmas money that we received from my Mom in order to pay for a good party for him. I got off work early in order to go to Verizon Wireless to buy him a new cell phone and add him to our plan for one of his presents. Something that I really did not want to do, but talked it out with Stef and said that I would give it a try. The party was great, he and his friends had a good time, and he cleaned up with cash for presents... no problems. Took him to stay the weekend with his friend after the party. We got home about 10:30 - 11PM and I was online checking email and such... somehow I ended up watching him talk to his girlfriend online for about an hour until about 12:30am from his friends house. Remember.... he was grounded from using the computer... any computer. At the same time on his profile I found some VERY unacceptable links, including his new favorite band which is extremely against the government and society. Not acceptable.
Long story short.... Stef and I cleared his entire room of EVERYTHING before he returned home Sunday on his actual birthday. We warned him, he took the chance and now he has to start all over by gaining our respect and trust first. Some of his stuff was boxed up and put away, some will be put on eBay, and the rest went to the curb. He started with an average boy's room... posters everywhere, pirate flag covering the black blinds covering the window, one wall with a cool mural that he is painting with two crossed guitars, black bed, black entertainment center, big TV, VCR, DVD, cd Stereo player, black electric guitar and amp, brand new black acoustic... etc. Spoiled! Now his room is freshly painted white leaving the mural alone, new white blinds, no electronics, no guitars... nothing but a blank entertainment center, a bed and most of his clothes. When he returned home he was not happy to say the least.... we gave and he took never giving anything back. Now he has to start from scratch... hopefully his attitude will change for the better and he will gain back what I don't plan on selling. Long weekend!
Like I said before.... I know that I was never this bad, but I know I put my Mom through some hell and now it's coming back to bite me in the butt. I need a drink.... BAD!
MD