Violations of trust
When I kicked the ex out of the house I started on a journey to find who I could trust. That was difficult for me since I felt I could trust no one and I didn't even know what the definition of that was anymore it was so torn and tattered to me. I edited my facebook friends and put everyone that knew him or shared a friend with him as an "
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Dec. 2013 Dustin and I got in a huge fight. I didn't know it was as big as it was till we were in the middle of it. He got drunk at my best friend and his best friends house. Which wouldn't be a big deal except he was drinking a lot since we were told Avy wasn't doing well. My friend's name was Christi. She was my best friend. She and her husband who she cheats on constantly, introduced Dustin and I.
Anyway. Christi brought Dustin home drunk (angry and volatile knowing I had it with his drinking and anger) and I learned that they had slept together at some point before our marriage and before we started dating. But this was huge information I felt I should have been told. Specially cause none of Christi's friends are allowed to talk to her husband. She's very jealous and crazy about everyone taking him, or her husband getting her back for what she does.
The fight between Dustin and I really escalated and got physical. I kicked Dustin out, called my mom, and the next day proceeded to look for divorce options. He left with her that night.
Christi who was my best friend took his side. He stayed with her. She sent me horrifically nasty texts, she befriended people that she hated that were my friends before including trying to befriend my other ex's. When I blocked her she tried other numbers. I couldn't get rid of her. Anyway she ended up alienating all them. Avonlea was still fragile and we didn't know if she would make it. At the law offices I learned how hard and how long it would be to divorce.
Dustin and I decided to make it work. Christi tried to be all apologetic saying Dustin told her the truth and it'd be a shame to let our friendship go. For 6 years we had been close. I told her fuck off. Dustin quit drinking and has gone to counseling every week now since it happened.
I really loved Christi. She was crazy, wild, bi polar, got arrested several times for being outrageous and was unpredictable. But she was fun and I never knew what was gonna happen around her. She was certainly exciting compared to my boring and predictable life. But screw it. I gotta protect my kids, whatever was left of my marriage or even if there wasn't anything left, because that was MY life not hers and she had no right.
Your marriage to Patrick is over but it was YOURS. It was your life, your marriage, and the others were YOUR friendships. It's creepy and disturbing Kam wants your life so bad... those kinds of people can never ever start to work on their own. Which makes it easier for them to blame other people for not being there for them. But how can you be there for someone who can't be there for themselves? You realize you have to take care of yourself first because otherwise you'd end up like her.
I totally get what you mean. I really do. All you can do is take out the trash, wash your hands, and let someone else collect it. Cause that's all they are doing with her. :/
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