Me, interrupted
So, there's been a lot of chaos in my life in the last year and half or so, and it's finally coming to a head. On Saturday, when I got back from 6 weeks working in Los Angeles (with that small break for The Cruise), Scott and I decided to finally move ahead with our divorce. I know that he's come to terms with the decision because he's showing signs that he's moving on in his life. That makes me glad for him and also sad.
We agreed that our marriage wasn't a bad thing. It was a good part of our lives and we don't wish that it never happened. There were a lot of things we'd have done differently along the way and we'll take those lessons to our future relationships.
We each told our families yesterday. We also had a discussion about practical issues. We want this to be amicable. I had made tentative plans to move out next month, but I think we're gonna see how things are right now. We're making our living spaces much more separate than they had been (we'd been sleeping apart, but still sharing the master bathroom and closet/dresser, etc). He's got an apartment he can borrow for the semester if things get too tense. We've talked some about division of assets and I'm going to get a storage space nearby and start separating my stuff out and decluttering in preparation for putting the house on the market. We'll be filing the divorce papers soon.
I have a lot of other larger question issues to resolve about what's next for me in my life, but the one that has been plaguing me for a while is one of identity. My relationship with him has been constant throughout most of my adult life. It's woven through things like my name and my online identity, like this username. I still haven't decided what to do about my surname yet, do I want to keep my ex-husband's name or go back to my ex-father's name? Scott suggested I come up with a new name entirely, but it took me long enough to find a replacement for "luvmoose".
But I have. I hearby introduce amybang. That's the new me. Friend me. Say hello.
We agreed that our marriage wasn't a bad thing. It was a good part of our lives and we don't wish that it never happened. There were a lot of things we'd have done differently along the way and we'll take those lessons to our future relationships.
We each told our families yesterday. We also had a discussion about practical issues. We want this to be amicable. I had made tentative plans to move out next month, but I think we're gonna see how things are right now. We're making our living spaces much more separate than they had been (we'd been sleeping apart, but still sharing the master bathroom and closet/dresser, etc). He's got an apartment he can borrow for the semester if things get too tense. We've talked some about division of assets and I'm going to get a storage space nearby and start separating my stuff out and decluttering in preparation for putting the house on the market. We'll be filing the divorce papers soon.
I have a lot of other larger question issues to resolve about what's next for me in my life, but the one that has been plaguing me for a while is one of identity. My relationship with him has been constant throughout most of my adult life. It's woven through things like my name and my online identity, like this username. I still haven't decided what to do about my surname yet, do I want to keep my ex-husband's name or go back to my ex-father's name? Scott suggested I come up with a new name entirely, but it took me long enough to find a replacement for "luvmoose".
But I have. I hearby introduce amybang. That's the new me. Friend me. Say hello.