yes, i agree with this, particularly on point about Amber. her actions and House's are routed in the same desire to have their boyfriend Wilson completely comfortable being himself around them (and, one could argue ability to discern the difference between Wilson's person and persona).
Many thanks for your comment! It's indeed fascinating to look at the same scene from different perspectives and share our views! I think I regard the situation between Wilson and Amber differently because the first mattress Wilson bought was already specifically meant to be for Amber (she'd said she wanted it; it wasn't just any mattress in the store Wilson bought thinking she might possibly like it). So it equals the church organ he got for House. Both things were chosen because Wilson wanted to make his partner happy. However, they reacted completely differently: Amber was disappointed and even a little pissed at Wilson, punished him by withdrawal of her affection and left with "I have work to do," while they were in the middle of making out. So when he went out to return his first purchase to buy the waterbed instead, it wasn't in a happy mood and not really something he did for himself, but again something he did to please her, so that she wouldn't be mad or disappointed with him any longer
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Yes, I also assume we’re likely to end this exchange by deciding that we just regard things differently. :-) Still, it’s fascinating and very enjoyable! And-you probably already suspected so while writing-I disagree with several things you mentioned
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While Wilson is not entirely happy by pleasing others and not getting much or anything back (here I agree ), it still defines him and has become a huge part of who he is. Let’s not forget that he might also be on antidepressants because he’s too involved with his patients’ fates. As an oncologist he’s constantly surrounded by people dying, crying, needing help or reassurance; they’re all eager for somebody who truly cares and offers to listen to them and can help them make it through their grief. Since he’s almost risked his whole career and future at PPTH, House keeps monitoring his cases to intervene should he get “sad again,” so that House can act before it comes to the worst. This shows how much difficulty Wilson has when it comes to seeing his own limits and stopping before he goes too far without realizing it. Which is also, imho, why at some point he does something drastic like throwing bottles against mirrors. It’s when that point is past. House is good at pushing Wilson until he snaps. What he says and does then, often gives
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When he’s alone with himself, he seems lost. Yes, exactly! That’s because he can’t just rely on himself, he needs people around him, to communicate, to feel useful and to feel needed. I don’t think it’s all calculation on his part. (Then he’d have completely adapted himself to the needs of all the women he met at their speed dating to hit on them. He didn’t.) Wilson is generally good with people, he blends in everywhere, always presents an immaculate front, but that’s not because he’s intentionally playing people so that they’ll keep him around
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Wilson’s continued this pattern with House: He looks out for him, protects him, lies for him, keeps him safe…and he secretly admires House for saying and doing what he wants without considering other people’s needs/feelings/takes on things first. Which is something he simply cannot do, no matter how much he wants to at times. And he also believed Amber to be like that, to be “needy” when he met her right after House had fired her. Well, she wasn’t. She could take care of herself very well, which is why (I think) it wouldn’t have worked out for them at the end…
Hi there! It's definitely a strength of the series that it makes us think about the characters so much and keeps us engaged in such a compelling conversation, even if we don't agree on certain things
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What Wilson does when he falls into the self-assumed role of caregiver is reliving the whole situation with Danny (it reminds me of the way that women who were beaten as children often keep falling in love with violent men). So far House has been the only one to break with the familiar pattern of either just using Wilson without giving anything back (like countless other people) or refusing to allow him to take care of him (like Amber). So far House has been the only one with whom Wilson has been able to have a lasting relationship because he's found the right mixture of allowing Wilson to care but challenging him on that at the same time while also taking care of Wilson in his own way
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And he also believed Amber to be like that, to be “needy” when he met her right after House had fired her. Well, she wasn’t. She could take care of herself very well, which is why (I think) it wouldn’t have worked out for them at the end…
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