The pain akin to being punched in the throat and stabbed in the chest...

[lunchbox743]

why do i even bother, why do i try...it always just ends up the same fucking way....i confess, she says 1 of 4 things: 1- she dosen't see me like that, 2- im too good of a friend and she dosent want to risk messing that up, 3- she dosent want a b/f at the moment, or the new 4th reason - she sees me like a (older) brother...then she forgets about

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[hopeinfire]

I know from experience that it's close to impossible to change the way I analyze and feel about things. The only thing that changes it is not allowing myself time to think about it. The busier and more occupied I am, the more I am satisfied with my life and the less I overanalyze shit. That's what works for me.

In the thought that you might be able to do something different the next time around...

If you asked for my advice I would tell you three things:
1. Try not to take everyone who treats you well as someone who potentially likes you. Tays loves you and she doesn't want to get on your jock. Think of it in these terms. Sometimes the more platonic (as in not trying to date them)the relationship, the better your friendship and potentially "dateship" will be.
2. It might change things to let the other person be the one to do the love confessing. I don't think anyone expects to leave it in the male's hands these days. You will know if she is hinting it to you, and it will be more than just being nice or having good conversations or hanging out. Different girls are different stories, but in personal experience if she asks about your love life without you really bringing it up, chances are she wants to get on your jock. Either way, suspicions are bullshit and you act on them when you are weak and think with your penis. For once, give the vagina control. You know that's what you want anyway.
2a. If she is the one you ask you, you don't stand to be hurt as much. a) You would not have to be hurt if she rejected you and b)if/when you break up, it will be more in her court because she began the whole thing.
Note to to 2a: Being apathetic isn't the answer to everything, and I guess if you take my advice you end up like me, with no solid dating relationships since I took up these ideas. However I'm of the opinion that it's a good place to be, and in the long run it's better to spend time on a lot of very good friendships than one relationship which IS going to end anyway.
3. Your heart overrides all of this. Advice encouraging analyzing, which I have sort of discouraged you from doing. I am a bastard. Seriously though, use your best judgement.

Best of luck.

Sincerely, Dr. Love

[lunchbox743]

thanks man, but since when is ur name dr. love?

[theuninformed]

since he got a room in a co-ed dorm....