Understandings
I think everyone on a day-to-day basis has very shallow connections with people. We're all so different. We all have different ways of understanding and processing things, even the same things. Very rarely can we find people who will see the same thing the same way. When we do find those rare ones, it is profound and wonderful and freeing. Finally someone I don't have to explain myself to so much. Someone I have more than a shallow connection with.
I believe those are the people God means us to be with forever... those people whom we don't have to labor with all the time. Every relationship takes work and that work is what makes it a real and healthy relationship. But it should also afford rest, where we can lay down our guard, open ourselves and be understood instantly or at least with very little explanation. And we should rarely have to speculate what the other person thinks of us, because if that person is as connected as we think they are, they will pick up on the subtleties and already know our wants and needs. Already know how to respond or make themselves understood. Should this require practice? Or should it be already set in place at the onset?
I don't know.
But if it is not so, then I want to be alone forever. Because that might be better than to live a life of endless unsolved misunderstandings.
I believe those are the people God means us to be with forever... those people whom we don't have to labor with all the time. Every relationship takes work and that work is what makes it a real and healthy relationship. But it should also afford rest, where we can lay down our guard, open ourselves and be understood instantly or at least with very little explanation. And we should rarely have to speculate what the other person thinks of us, because if that person is as connected as we think they are, they will pick up on the subtleties and already know our wants and needs. Already know how to respond or make themselves understood. Should this require practice? Or should it be already set in place at the onset?
I don't know.
But if it is not so, then I want to be alone forever. Because that might be better than to live a life of endless unsolved misunderstandings.