Pregnancy
I love being pregnant.
Maybe it’s because I felt like I waited a long time to be pregnant. Maybe it’s because I decided that no matter what, I was going to love being pregnant (the mind is a powerful thing) but all I know is that I love being pregnant.
Im a worrier too so that hasn’t gone away with this love. But it feels like a crucial element of being a mother and a new phase that I will learn through and grow.
I’ve found that most people react the same way to pregnancy as to getting married. I don’t like labels so I won’t go into details but I do question why people talk so negatively about something so joyous. We always wonder why in these two circumstances do people say things like ‘Oh it’ll all change now’ or ‘It’s all downhill after the initial cuteness’ or ‘Bank your sleep now’ (like you can do that!). ‘Twins? That’ll be the end of {insert activity here}’, ‘Just wait, it’s all ahead of you now {knowing and derisive laugh}’, ‘You’ll not know what hit you!’.
Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it encouraging? Is it necessary?
Now when I got married, I knew I was doing it. I chose to do it. I was excited. I couldn't wait. I knew challenges were ahead and almost four years down the line I can’t say we have faced everything we might possibly face and so I cant say how we might handle anything and everything. But we have faced our own battles. And (to be cheesy) I am more in love, more excited to be married and more confident in our relationship and it’s ability to face things. Togetherness.
So, it’s the same with being pregnant. We knew what we were doing. We chose it. We were excited. We couldn't wait. We know some of the challenges ahead, ones we maybe haven’t faced yet but are prepared to do so together. We are already in love with our babies, we are excited to welcome them to our world and we are confident in our relationship to face things together. We are not naive- thinking things won't change- but not everything has to change, and certainly not for the worse. These babies are becoming part of our world. What world would that be if it changed completely, and lost all resemblance to our personality? We want them to see and learn and grow and know and therefore we have to be that example to them. Yes we won’t get all the sleep and yes there are times we won’t be able to go out together to do things we once did. But it’s not a life sentence. We are excited to adapt our lifestyle to accept our twins. We are also excited to share our world with them.
Also- I have the best partner on this journey. Yes he does so much for me throughout my pregnancy but he always did before. And I have no doubt he will only continue to do so. I know this because he is my best friend and life partner. He has the ability to make me laugh and make me mad like no other and he is always the one person I want beside me. Again, things will change but the very basis of our relationship that we have taken time and effort to nurture will not.
Maybe you can write me off as naive as anything and laugh at me because I don’t yet have children and I don’t have a clue what I am talking about. That’s ok. I accept that I have to prove people wrong yet that is not my goal. My goal is life and life abundant. Because that’s what Jesus came to give and when we are walking in a relationship with Him, we should be walking in joy peace and righteousness. He is the ultimate creator. He is the ultimate Father. Therefore creating life and being a parent comes from the very heart of God.
Maybe it’s because I felt like I waited a long time to be pregnant. Maybe it’s because I decided that no matter what, I was going to love being pregnant (the mind is a powerful thing) but all I know is that I love being pregnant.
Im a worrier too so that hasn’t gone away with this love. But it feels like a crucial element of being a mother and a new phase that I will learn through and grow.
I’ve found that most people react the same way to pregnancy as to getting married. I don’t like labels so I won’t go into details but I do question why people talk so negatively about something so joyous. We always wonder why in these two circumstances do people say things like ‘Oh it’ll all change now’ or ‘It’s all downhill after the initial cuteness’ or ‘Bank your sleep now’ (like you can do that!). ‘Twins? That’ll be the end of {insert activity here}’, ‘Just wait, it’s all ahead of you now {knowing and derisive laugh}’, ‘You’ll not know what hit you!’.
Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it encouraging? Is it necessary?
Now when I got married, I knew I was doing it. I chose to do it. I was excited. I couldn't wait. I knew challenges were ahead and almost four years down the line I can’t say we have faced everything we might possibly face and so I cant say how we might handle anything and everything. But we have faced our own battles. And (to be cheesy) I am more in love, more excited to be married and more confident in our relationship and it’s ability to face things. Togetherness.
So, it’s the same with being pregnant. We knew what we were doing. We chose it. We were excited. We couldn't wait. We know some of the challenges ahead, ones we maybe haven’t faced yet but are prepared to do so together. We are already in love with our babies, we are excited to welcome them to our world and we are confident in our relationship to face things together. We are not naive- thinking things won't change- but not everything has to change, and certainly not for the worse. These babies are becoming part of our world. What world would that be if it changed completely, and lost all resemblance to our personality? We want them to see and learn and grow and know and therefore we have to be that example to them. Yes we won’t get all the sleep and yes there are times we won’t be able to go out together to do things we once did. But it’s not a life sentence. We are excited to adapt our lifestyle to accept our twins. We are also excited to share our world with them.
Also- I have the best partner on this journey. Yes he does so much for me throughout my pregnancy but he always did before. And I have no doubt he will only continue to do so. I know this because he is my best friend and life partner. He has the ability to make me laugh and make me mad like no other and he is always the one person I want beside me. Again, things will change but the very basis of our relationship that we have taken time and effort to nurture will not.
Maybe you can write me off as naive as anything and laugh at me because I don’t yet have children and I don’t have a clue what I am talking about. That’s ok. I accept that I have to prove people wrong yet that is not my goal. My goal is life and life abundant. Because that’s what Jesus came to give and when we are walking in a relationship with Him, we should be walking in joy peace and righteousness. He is the ultimate creator. He is the ultimate Father. Therefore creating life and being a parent comes from the very heart of God.