Update, big life change: I'm divorcing (separating)

[lovmelovmycats]

Hello LJ. I've been reading, but not posting in ages. Well, it is slower around here than it used to be, but I still read because what my friends post is still interesting

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[lovmelovmycats]

By the way: I don't think any of you, my LJ friends, needed this lecture. I needed to say it, to tell my story my way, and I expect some of my family members will need this lecture. They aren't LJ'ers. I'm saying it here first because it's easier. I may cut-n-paste parts of it to Them, or link to this on Facebook, or maybe I will re-tell my story and refine it.
Memory is narrative, it is the only way to store our past, and narrative must be crafted. In regards to my past, I get to choose, and to the naysayers, I must reinforce my story.

[plymouth]

I don't know you all that well but the couple of times I met you I did think you were nifty and I've enjoyed reading your thoughts here over the years. You're right in regard to me (and probably most people reading this) that I don't NEED this rant in order to understand that you can still feel close to your ex in a lot of ways and want to defend him against folks who would try to "side with you" by disrespecting him. But I still appreciate reading it. There's a really wide range of ways people can deal with breakups and it's never a matter of just "amicable" or "bitter and angry". Understanding where my friends or acquaintances fall on that spectrum helps me relate to some of my own experiences as well as sympathizing/empathizing with them. So thank you for sharing it here and I wish you all the best.

[lovmelovmycats]

Thank you :)

[arielstarshadow]

Sometimes, things work. Sometimes, they don't. Sometimes, what we want coincides with what someone else wants - and sometimes, it doesn't. And that's OK. I think it says something about our society that there has to be third-party drama whenever relationships end. It makes a not-generally-pleasant situation even more so, when the exact opposite is what is needed.

[lovmelovmycats]

Thanks for understanding! :)

[missionista]

I am sorry to hear that you are separating. I greatly admire that you are not getting stuck in the "my ex is evil" pattern.

[lovmelovmycats]

Thank you. ;)
Love the baby pics on FB.

[kest]

Massive love to you both, and my best wishes for happiness and healthiness on the other side of this difficult time.

[lovmelovmycats]

Thanks!

[dicedork]

Sounds like a very healthy way to move forward. I'm sorry that you have to go through grief and pain. It is never easy.

[lovmelovmycats]

Thank you. :)
Good job on the blog!