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katinator44 in loversfaraway

LD to SD

Jul 19, 2011 14:22

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Good news from my end! Everything is falling into place to make this relationship a short one FINALLY. After four long years of being in a long distance one, we're only about a month out from having our lives come together :) My Garry moved into his apartment yesterday and soon it will be our home! Now I just have to finish up my ( Read more... )

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smokeswirls July 19 2011, 18:56:57 UTC

I'm so happy for you! Congratulations on the 4 long years finally coming to an end.

Wow, my boyfriend and I have only been LD for almost a year now, and even THAT has been hard, but FOUR YEARS? I commend you!

My boyfriend and I plan on closing the distance sometime next year, by May or so. I, like you, have a lot of excitement but a lot of fear as well.
Are you scared of things not going well once you are SD? It's a fear of mine, but I suppose it's a fear of any couple about to close the distance. And, on my end, another big fear is the prospect of moving to a foreign country (he wants to close the distance in Europe).

Best of luck with everything! :)

katinator44 July 19 2011, 19:06:21 UTC

Thanks :) a lot of people say they could never do a LDR, especially one for so long but...when you love someone you do what you gotta do lol as you well know :)

Yeah, I'm scared of things not working out for us because of the short distance...I think every long distance couple goes through that fear of things not being as wonderful as we expect them to be...but even then, I'm expecting us to have problems, especially after the "honeymoon" phase is over and we have to really adjust to being around one another all the time. So I'm not expecting it to be a fairy tale but I'm still scared lol which is natural and I say it's good we both have these fears...it means we really do care about ourselves and our relationships

That would be scary, moving so far! I'm scared of just moving across the country and missing my mom, but I'm sure things will work out for you in the end :) Europe is absolutely beautiful

smokeswirls July 27 2011, 14:20:32 UTC

You mentioned the "honeymoon" phase...

How did you know that this phase was over for you and your boyfriend? I recently made a post about this. Since those of us in LDRs can usually only rely on words (via text or email) instead of being able to get reassurance/validation through physical gestures such as hugs and kisses, I'm wondering if my SO is "losing" feelings for me because he's being less lovey-dovey in emails and even telling me that he loves me less frequently.

I guess it's just that the honeymoon phase is calming down/fading?

smokeswirls July 27 2011, 14:31:00 UTC

zera82 July 19 2011, 19:50:45 UTC

Congrats too! With just getting my visa we're looking to close the distance around the same time. Though early September, gotta love it when things fall into place right?

wellah July 19 2011, 21:48:43 UTC

Congrats! I'm only a few weeks into my LDR. We were SD for about 3.5 months before he got a job opportunity across the country. I'm hoping the 9 months he'll be gone will pass swiftly, and we'll be as lucky as you!

silviar July 20 2011, 10:00:56 UTC

Congratulations! The worries you have are normal, for sure - don't be afraid if you guys have some fights or tempers - it's all part of the adjusting, and the fights will help you grow together as a couple, as well as help you learn to communicate in your new SD-hood. :)