A) you don't know anything about their relationship, sticking yourself into their business will get you fired. This will go down in one of two ways - first, you obsessively talk to her about his horribleness, about the way he used to treat you and the way he is using her. She files for harassment and you're gone. Second - she listens to everything, doesn't say a word because it's not good to antagonize the obsessive ex girlfriend, she goes home and tells her boss boyfriend and boss boyfriend goes on the warpath to find something legitimate to fire you for. Either way, he is still with the new girl, they are still flaunting everything around the office and you are out on the streets. The girl has plenty of people to save her if she needs it, the ex girlfriend is NOT one of them.
B) you are currently torturing the shit out of yourself with staying in that company. How on earth are you supposed to heal and move on if you have to see him every single day and spend your time away from him searching out minute details? If my friend came to me and said even half of the stuff you said, I would tell her to send out 900 resumes to every company you can think of for any position you can think of. I know you have a mortgage and all, but this guy is making you crazy and it's getting worse. You need to get as far away from him as possible. Stop looking for attention from him, he knows you want it and is purposely not giving it to you because he knows you want it. He is failing at his ability to be a good boss, but unfortunately he's in the position of power and isn't going anywhere so you're going to have to be independent of him and work around him. So start looking for jobs, start seeing how you can budget each month so you can take a bit of a pay cut and still survive. Unfriend and block him and his girlfriend on every social media possible.
C) you are so blinded by your hate for him and obsessed with everything he's done that you have become an ignorant hateful person. And yes, you do hate this girl, look at what you've written about her. You know practically nothing about this girl yet you are judging her looks, judging her intelligence, judging her ability to make up her own mind. How horribly cruel to say you think he replaced you with the same thing (which she's not), then say you can't see what he sees in her. The environment you are in is toxic, you are making it more toxic, get out.
Completely agree with porcelain_ocean's comments. No mortgage, no job, is worth you staying in this situation. It is incredibly toxic, and change is needed. SappireLuna, you're in complete danger of losing yourself from the good person you are, and risk a very hard future path that can smear you with maliciousness and possible legal troubles. At the very least, as several posters have commented, find someone you can talk to, professional preferred, so you can vent and get some outside perspective here.
B) you are currently torturing the shit out of yourself with staying in that company. How on earth are you supposed to heal and move on if you have to see him every single day and spend your time away from him searching out minute details? If my friend came to me and said even half of the stuff you said, I would tell her to send out 900 resumes to every company you can think of for any position you can think of. I know you have a mortgage and all, but this guy is making you crazy and it's getting worse. You need to get as far away from him as possible. Stop looking for attention from him, he knows you want it and is purposely not giving it to you because he knows you want it. He is failing at his ability to be a good boss, but unfortunately he's in the position of power and isn't going anywhere so you're going to have to be independent of him and work around him. So start looking for jobs, start seeing how you can budget each month so you can take a bit of a pay cut and still survive. Unfriend and block him and his girlfriend on every social media possible.
C) you are so blinded by your hate for him and obsessed with everything he's done that you have become an ignorant hateful person. And yes, you do hate this girl, look at what you've written about her. You know practically nothing about this girl yet you are judging her looks, judging her intelligence, judging her ability to make up her own mind. How horribly cruel to say you think he replaced you with the same thing (which she's not), then say you can't see what he sees in her. The environment you are in is toxic, you are making it more toxic, get out.
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