put my arms around him...try to change what he's saying
Today I got to thinking about boundaries....there is the saying that boundaries don't keep people out, instead they fence you in. When we get hurt we lock everyone out, we set up fences and walls to protect our heart and our feelings from getting more torn to shreds than they already have. Our hearts get scarred and we wrap ourselves up, swearing never to let it happen again...we become abused humane society animals that shudder at the thought of human contact....
My neice was born last week and was sick the first few days... as I stood in intensive care staring at her tiny lil body hooked up to all of the respirators, I couldn't help but think about how sweet and innocent she is...no scars, no baggage, no damage from the outside world....a clean slate full of possibilty, no boundaries to keep out the outside world...its hard to believe that everyone was once there. How did I get from there to where I am now? If you were born with boundaries and walls already built, would you never get hurt?
I don't believe that....I believe that if we never let anyone in, we can never grow, we can never fall in love (again), we can never get over failed relationships and we can never have lasting friendships. I'm by no means saying to let everyone in...but with the select few....is it all that bad to break down your walls?
My neice was born last week and was sick the first few days... as I stood in intensive care staring at her tiny lil body hooked up to all of the respirators, I couldn't help but think about how sweet and innocent she is...no scars, no baggage, no damage from the outside world....a clean slate full of possibilty, no boundaries to keep out the outside world...its hard to believe that everyone was once there. How did I get from there to where I am now? If you were born with boundaries and walls already built, would you never get hurt?
I don't believe that....I believe that if we never let anyone in, we can never grow, we can never fall in love (again), we can never get over failed relationships and we can never have lasting friendships. I'm by no means saying to let everyone in...but with the select few....is it all that bad to break down your walls?