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So it's time for my first livejournal rant, the time where I come out and criticize whatever I want (Disclaimer: Topics of these rants are never targeted at any one particular person or group, nor or they influenced by something that has directly happened to me. I repeat, nothing I say here is a whiny emo rant. With that in mind, on with the talk):
I hate people who put up false front towards people they don't really like. There's no advantage to it. To illustrate what I'm talking about. Say a person has a "friend" who they really don't like, yet they are still friends with this person because they're "just being nice." You are harming both yourself and the person that you're doing it to at the same time. You're harming the other person because 1) they can usually tell something isn't right and 2) when they eventually find out the truth, they get rather pissed. You're harming yourself because you have to keep making sure that you're putting up the right face to be nice to someone you don't even like. This seems rather ridiculous, just tell the person to get the fuck away if that's what you want to say, it makes everything easier. Face it, there are no secrets these days, they'll find out eventually.
Note also that I am talking about a very specific thing. This is quite related to not talking about people behind there back, but that's a distinctly different subject. I'm only talking about people that you pretend to be friends with for whatever reason (I can't think of any reason why that would be).
With that in mind, if you are an offender, all is not lost. Be frank with your "enemy" (I use the term lightly, and only as something to contrast with a true friend) and tell them what you really feel NOW, before someone else tells them. Because someone will, I guarantee it, and that will just make things a hell of a lot worse.
[Edited soon after in a clarification stupor]: Note, if the problem you have with said "enemy" is something you think they can fix, TELL THEM IMMEDIATLY. Chances are, since you've been nice to them for so long, they'll still want to be friends, so it'd be rather nice if you'd let them know what to do.
Footnote: I considered locking down comments for this rant, but have decided that leave it open with the following considerations in mind. I do not want to see any targeted comments, confessions, accusations of anything related to this rant on my comment board. Any such comments will be swiftly deleted by the management. General comments as the the topic of the rant itself, however, are acceptable and are in fact encouraged.
I hate people who put up false front towards people they don't really like. There's no advantage to it. To illustrate what I'm talking about. Say a person has a "friend" who they really don't like, yet they are still friends with this person because they're "just being nice." You are harming both yourself and the person that you're doing it to at the same time. You're harming the other person because 1) they can usually tell something isn't right and 2) when they eventually find out the truth, they get rather pissed. You're harming yourself because you have to keep making sure that you're putting up the right face to be nice to someone you don't even like. This seems rather ridiculous, just tell the person to get the fuck away if that's what you want to say, it makes everything easier. Face it, there are no secrets these days, they'll find out eventually.
Note also that I am talking about a very specific thing. This is quite related to not talking about people behind there back, but that's a distinctly different subject. I'm only talking about people that you pretend to be friends with for whatever reason (I can't think of any reason why that would be).
With that in mind, if you are an offender, all is not lost. Be frank with your "enemy" (I use the term lightly, and only as something to contrast with a true friend) and tell them what you really feel NOW, before someone else tells them. Because someone will, I guarantee it, and that will just make things a hell of a lot worse.
[Edited soon after in a clarification stupor]: Note, if the problem you have with said "enemy" is something you think they can fix, TELL THEM IMMEDIATLY. Chances are, since you've been nice to them for so long, they'll still want to be friends, so it'd be rather nice if you'd let them know what to do.
Footnote: I considered locking down comments for this rant, but have decided that leave it open with the following considerations in mind. I do not want to see any targeted comments, confessions, accusations of anything related to this rant on my comment board. Any such comments will be swiftly deleted by the management. General comments as the the topic of the rant itself, however, are acceptable and are in fact encouraged.