Meeting Anne
I never talked about how Anne and I met on here, and I was thinking about it today while discussing fate, and realized it's time to mention it. Okay, so here it is...
Around 25 years ago Anne knew my sister a little bit, just not very well at all. But my sister came into her dorm room to say something to her roommate or ask something, or something like that since Anne's roommate was the R.A. Well in mid conversation they heard a car peeling out of the parking lot, and my sister said "Yeah, that's my little brother, he'll be coming here next year". As I found out later, Anne was thinking it would be nice to have a more rebellious type person at Roberts, and was sorta hoping I'd be cute because it sounded like the type of guy she'd like to date. Mind you, she hadn't actually ever dated, but she had a bit of a crush on a random guy she had never met before and knew nothing about.
Now mind you, she didn't sit up at nights wondering what I was like or anything, it was just a thing she thought about. Then I started going to Roberts with her the next year, while she was still there, but we hadn't met in any way. I was going to school and working in the cafeteria in the dishroom and occasionally would do the pots and pans for an extra couple of hours between classes. I got scheduled to do them, came in, and where I was usually alone I saw someone else there. A cute type of girl who seemed rather quiet and shy type. (the opposite of me!) Well I immediately checked to see if she fit my criteria of a girl I would hit on... female: check - yep, she checked out! So I started hitting on her! (I always figured chances were slim I'd end up with a girl but hitting on a girl was always good for practice anyway). But I felt a lot more hopeful with her. She was definitely the kind of girl I liked, and she did something I'd never had a girl do to me before - she was honest and showed definite interest without trying to hide interest in some type of power struggle - no games! (I always did bad with game playing girls since I'd assume they were being honest and then go meet some other girl and end up getting dirty looks from the girl that said she wasn't ready for a boyfriend with me - wtf???)
Anyway, I was getting something, can't remember what, and the manager at the time told me he forgot to tell her not to come in that day. I told him it was the best mistake he ever made! And as it turned out, I was right, since we ended up getting married a few years later!
But the funny thing is, tonight I thought about the fate part of it all. Now I'm not one to believe in believing in fate, but I do believe in fate. Does that sound insane? Well yeah, it is. But you see, I didn't find out until years later about Anne hearing me peel out and liking me back then. And then when I met her, she had no idea I was Karen's brother who she was hoping for as a potential boyfriend a year earlier. She was also supposed to get a call to not come in that day. And you have to realize, if she didn't get that call, I wasn't exactly the kind of guy to move slowly and not try to meet girls. Roberts Weslyan at the time was about 80% female, and I was chatting up a lot of girls! I didn't want to have a reputation for being too much of a womanizer because I wanted a clean enough reputation to land a decent girl, but I probably would have gotten myself into some kind of relationship within a few more days had I not met Anne, and then by time she had met me it would have been all sorts of drama and annoying crap like what you see in movies.
Which is why movie fate is total crap! Because it's always based on two people not having a choice that are supposed to be together and eventually deciding to follow fate. But what about the person they were with before? Is that the person they're 'destined' to be with? It's all bullshit to me. Which is where my philosophy gets odd - I believe in fate, but not believing in it. As in, I don't believe you should go after someone because you believe it's fate, I don't believe you should do nothing and hope fate introduces you to someone, and I don't believe fate is some kind of master plan to hook you up with a single person who is the only person you could possibly be happy with. I do, however, believe it was fate that Anne and I met. I guess I just believe that's as far as fate goes - an introduction. If you're not a dumbass you'll take advantage of that, and if you're a retard you'll run around screaming about your belief in fate and end up banging someone who will turn out to be your cousin or something!
Which leads me to a funny story about my brother that I think I'll post next because I find it funny!
Around 25 years ago Anne knew my sister a little bit, just not very well at all. But my sister came into her dorm room to say something to her roommate or ask something, or something like that since Anne's roommate was the R.A. Well in mid conversation they heard a car peeling out of the parking lot, and my sister said "Yeah, that's my little brother, he'll be coming here next year". As I found out later, Anne was thinking it would be nice to have a more rebellious type person at Roberts, and was sorta hoping I'd be cute because it sounded like the type of guy she'd like to date. Mind you, she hadn't actually ever dated, but she had a bit of a crush on a random guy she had never met before and knew nothing about.
Now mind you, she didn't sit up at nights wondering what I was like or anything, it was just a thing she thought about. Then I started going to Roberts with her the next year, while she was still there, but we hadn't met in any way. I was going to school and working in the cafeteria in the dishroom and occasionally would do the pots and pans for an extra couple of hours between classes. I got scheduled to do them, came in, and where I was usually alone I saw someone else there. A cute type of girl who seemed rather quiet and shy type. (the opposite of me!) Well I immediately checked to see if she fit my criteria of a girl I would hit on... female: check - yep, she checked out! So I started hitting on her! (I always figured chances were slim I'd end up with a girl but hitting on a girl was always good for practice anyway). But I felt a lot more hopeful with her. She was definitely the kind of girl I liked, and she did something I'd never had a girl do to me before - she was honest and showed definite interest without trying to hide interest in some type of power struggle - no games! (I always did bad with game playing girls since I'd assume they were being honest and then go meet some other girl and end up getting dirty looks from the girl that said she wasn't ready for a boyfriend with me - wtf???)
Anyway, I was getting something, can't remember what, and the manager at the time told me he forgot to tell her not to come in that day. I told him it was the best mistake he ever made! And as it turned out, I was right, since we ended up getting married a few years later!
But the funny thing is, tonight I thought about the fate part of it all. Now I'm not one to believe in believing in fate, but I do believe in fate. Does that sound insane? Well yeah, it is. But you see, I didn't find out until years later about Anne hearing me peel out and liking me back then. And then when I met her, she had no idea I was Karen's brother who she was hoping for as a potential boyfriend a year earlier. She was also supposed to get a call to not come in that day. And you have to realize, if she didn't get that call, I wasn't exactly the kind of guy to move slowly and not try to meet girls. Roberts Weslyan at the time was about 80% female, and I was chatting up a lot of girls! I didn't want to have a reputation for being too much of a womanizer because I wanted a clean enough reputation to land a decent girl, but I probably would have gotten myself into some kind of relationship within a few more days had I not met Anne, and then by time she had met me it would have been all sorts of drama and annoying crap like what you see in movies.
Which is why movie fate is total crap! Because it's always based on two people not having a choice that are supposed to be together and eventually deciding to follow fate. But what about the person they were with before? Is that the person they're 'destined' to be with? It's all bullshit to me. Which is where my philosophy gets odd - I believe in fate, but not believing in it. As in, I don't believe you should go after someone because you believe it's fate, I don't believe you should do nothing and hope fate introduces you to someone, and I don't believe fate is some kind of master plan to hook you up with a single person who is the only person you could possibly be happy with. I do, however, believe it was fate that Anne and I met. I guess I just believe that's as far as fate goes - an introduction. If you're not a dumbass you'll take advantage of that, and if you're a retard you'll run around screaming about your belief in fate and end up banging someone who will turn out to be your cousin or something!
Which leads me to a funny story about my brother that I think I'll post next because I find it funny!