Pregnancy Incident and Related Rant
This has been a strange weekend. My husband is at work right now, and I feel like that’s where I should be. I’m swamped and it’s taking me way too long to prepare a management trust accounting, but I don’t want to look at numbers anymore. There are other things that I need to do too, I’m just being lazy.
I went to the Texas game on Saturday. It was awful. We won, but we looked lousy against a lousy team. The TCU game next weekend could turn out to be a disaster. Texas fans aren’t used to losing.
We went to a tailgate party before the game like we always do. It’s thrown by a gentleman that my FIL works with named Terry. I had heard that his son’s wife was pregnant again, so I congratulated him. He thanked me and said that he had heard that Brad and I were trying to get pregnant also. O_o!!! Where the hell did he get that information from? What in heaven’s name has Duane (FIL) been telling his employees? What does he know about it anyway? Brad proceeded to tell Terry that we aren’t trying yet, but are shooting for a year from now. As if it was any of his damned business! To be fair, Terry was drunk and so was Brad, but who the hell asks such a presumptuous question of a tailgate party acquaintance?!?! Worse yet, who the hell answers with specifics?!?! I was livid! I was polite to Terry, but later I pulled Brad aside and gave him what for. He spent the rest of the day trying to make it up to me. I told Brad that from now on his answer to any kid questions or comments should always be “we’ve got time” or something else vague along those lines.
When we do start trying to get pregnant, I don’t want other people to know it, not even my parents, certainly not his parents. It’s the equivalent to saying, “yep, we’re having lots of sex right now. W00t!” and of course, people would ask how the baby making is coming every time they see us. And what should we say then, “it’s been boring, but we’ve started watching pornography just to spice things up a little”? Give me a break!
Brad wants a kiddo so badly. The problem is that it will be more difficult for me than it is for most women. Never mind that I haven’t even started physical therapy to learn how to chew again from my jaw surgery. In addition to my OBGYN appointments, I’ll have to consult with my neurologist and go to an ADHD coach at least weekly, maybe even a nutritionist. I’ll probably have to tell the HR person what’s going on just to establish a disability so it will be more difficult for them to fire me if my performance really goes south. I love being a paralegal, but I couldn’t have picked a more difficult profession for not being medicated. Most people that have ADHD to the extent that I do and are successful without medication have chosen a profession that is more suitable to a right-brained person. My job as a paralegal requires me to be extremely organized, a good note taker, and have impeccable attention to detail.
It’s not that I’m not ready for children; I’m just not ready to go through the process of having one. How do I explain all this to someone that I barely know when I haven’t been able to successfully explain it to most of my good friends and family? Brad is right, a year from now is probably reasonable. I just hate it when people bring it up, especially strangers. I’m probably just overreacting, but that would be so unlike me ;-)
I went to the Texas game on Saturday. It was awful. We won, but we looked lousy against a lousy team. The TCU game next weekend could turn out to be a disaster. Texas fans aren’t used to losing.
We went to a tailgate party before the game like we always do. It’s thrown by a gentleman that my FIL works with named Terry. I had heard that his son’s wife was pregnant again, so I congratulated him. He thanked me and said that he had heard that Brad and I were trying to get pregnant also. O_o!!! Where the hell did he get that information from? What in heaven’s name has Duane (FIL) been telling his employees? What does he know about it anyway? Brad proceeded to tell Terry that we aren’t trying yet, but are shooting for a year from now. As if it was any of his damned business! To be fair, Terry was drunk and so was Brad, but who the hell asks such a presumptuous question of a tailgate party acquaintance?!?! Worse yet, who the hell answers with specifics?!?! I was livid! I was polite to Terry, but later I pulled Brad aside and gave him what for. He spent the rest of the day trying to make it up to me. I told Brad that from now on his answer to any kid questions or comments should always be “we’ve got time” or something else vague along those lines.
When we do start trying to get pregnant, I don’t want other people to know it, not even my parents, certainly not his parents. It’s the equivalent to saying, “yep, we’re having lots of sex right now. W00t!” and of course, people would ask how the baby making is coming every time they see us. And what should we say then, “it’s been boring, but we’ve started watching pornography just to spice things up a little”? Give me a break!
Brad wants a kiddo so badly. The problem is that it will be more difficult for me than it is for most women. Never mind that I haven’t even started physical therapy to learn how to chew again from my jaw surgery. In addition to my OBGYN appointments, I’ll have to consult with my neurologist and go to an ADHD coach at least weekly, maybe even a nutritionist. I’ll probably have to tell the HR person what’s going on just to establish a disability so it will be more difficult for them to fire me if my performance really goes south. I love being a paralegal, but I couldn’t have picked a more difficult profession for not being medicated. Most people that have ADHD to the extent that I do and are successful without medication have chosen a profession that is more suitable to a right-brained person. My job as a paralegal requires me to be extremely organized, a good note taker, and have impeccable attention to detail.
It’s not that I’m not ready for children; I’m just not ready to go through the process of having one. How do I explain all this to someone that I barely know when I haven’t been able to successfully explain it to most of my good friends and family? Brad is right, a year from now is probably reasonable. I just hate it when people bring it up, especially strangers. I’m probably just overreacting, but that would be so unlike me ;-)