I'm kind of on a tear
And I don't feel like getting all ranty on FB. So congratulations soapbox El-Jay.
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Is vajazzling sexist?
Sun, 2010-04-11 21:39
Is it oppresive for a woman to dye her hair, paint her fingernails, wear high heals, wear makeup, etc.? Not at all. Women today have the freedom to choose how to best express themselves. They can keep things simple, or ordane themselves with all that femininity can offer. Vajazzling is just an extension of existing techniques for women to enhance their bodies. And vajazzling, as with anything else, should be done for the right reasons, never out of any sense of pressure. Like other techniques, it's temporary, safe, and entirely customizable.
First - High HEELS and ORDAIN. Second, I don't think women confer holiness upon themselves or make decrees by wearing makeup and stilettos. (peanut gallery refrain, please.) What's the word they're looking for here? In place of ordain, I mean?
(ADORN. Good grief, I was so thrown by ordain, I couldn't think of it but they meant to say ADORN.)
Third - This malarky is supposed to masquerade under freedom of expression??? Lets rip all the hair off your cooch and then stick something pretty on it like a butterfly or a flower, instead of all those icky pubes. We don't want our va-jay-jays looking like something the cat dragged in, or worse like nature intended - do we ladies?
Are high HEELS, hair dye, makeup and nail polish oppressive? I've been "guilty" of donning all four, and I don't FEEL oppressed. But I don't see those same products (excepting hair dye) marketed to men either. Know why? Because the man PURSE was laughed out of existence. Of course they're oppressive. To paraphrase Richard Fish of Ally McBeal fame "What kind of grown person would wear these?", indicating a pair of slingback heels. They're the by-products of a patriarchal society that is constantly telling women that A)we need men to feel a sense of self-worth, and B)men cannot be expected to focus their attention on a single woman for any length of time (gotta keep up that self-worth!) so you have to FOOL him into believing you are many different women. Or that as you age, you must keep him from learning the horrible horrible truth. That you are AGING. Nevermind that men age too. That's a whole separate youth-worship culture. And really, guys I think that's a knock at your attention span.
Frankly, I'd be offended by the whole "beauty" industry if I were a man. Doesn't it ever piss you off that Madison Avenue is constantly telling you what standard you should judge beauty by? If you happen to like that, fine. What if you like something else? Does that somehow makes you less of a man?
So yes - I think all those things ARE oppressive. But they are choices. I choose whether or not I want to buy into that mentality. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I'm a social creature, and sometimes I like the game. And I'm equally awesome in jeans, sweats, heels, makeup, nailpolish or buck ass naked. For what it's worth, I think I am at my personal hottest every day after I get out of the shower while brushing my teeth. Just so the world knows.
But why is there always something ELSE? Do lines ever get drawn? I guess not, in a capitalist society.
I'm not 8 years old. I don't WANT a butterfly or a snowflake or a flower or a cobra on my cooch. Hell, I don't want bows on my bras or shoes! If someone gets close enough to me to want to LOOK at my vagina, and I want to let him, I want him to see ME. Not some sticker reminiscent of a My Little Pony tramp stamp. Peel back all the layers of hairstyles and clothing and makeup and emotions and choices and mistakes and the shapes I choose to take, and know that underneath I am always the loyal, loving, enduring, rocksteady woman that he wants. I want him to see the best friend, and the lover, and the vixen, and all the beauty and potential and worth of what I am and always always have the possibility to be.
I've got enough defense mechanisms that I hide behind. I don't need to pay 12.95 for one covered in rhinestones.
Who invented this thing anyway? That's what I really went on the FAQ's to find out.
http://www.vajazzling.com/content/vajazzling-sexist-0
Home › Frequently Asked Questions
Is vajazzling sexist?
Sun, 2010-04-11 21:39
Is it oppresive for a woman to dye her hair, paint her fingernails, wear high heals, wear makeup, etc.? Not at all. Women today have the freedom to choose how to best express themselves. They can keep things simple, or ordane themselves with all that femininity can offer. Vajazzling is just an extension of existing techniques for women to enhance their bodies. And vajazzling, as with anything else, should be done for the right reasons, never out of any sense of pressure. Like other techniques, it's temporary, safe, and entirely customizable.
First - High HEELS and ORDAIN. Second, I don't think women confer holiness upon themselves or make decrees by wearing makeup and stilettos. (peanut gallery refrain, please.) What's the word they're looking for here? In place of ordain, I mean?
(ADORN. Good grief, I was so thrown by ordain, I couldn't think of it but they meant to say ADORN.)
Third - This malarky is supposed to masquerade under freedom of expression??? Lets rip all the hair off your cooch and then stick something pretty on it like a butterfly or a flower, instead of all those icky pubes. We don't want our va-jay-jays looking like something the cat dragged in, or worse like nature intended - do we ladies?
Are high HEELS, hair dye, makeup and nail polish oppressive? I've been "guilty" of donning all four, and I don't FEEL oppressed. But I don't see those same products (excepting hair dye) marketed to men either. Know why? Because the man PURSE was laughed out of existence. Of course they're oppressive. To paraphrase Richard Fish of Ally McBeal fame "What kind of grown person would wear these?", indicating a pair of slingback heels. They're the by-products of a patriarchal society that is constantly telling women that A)we need men to feel a sense of self-worth, and B)men cannot be expected to focus their attention on a single woman for any length of time (gotta keep up that self-worth!) so you have to FOOL him into believing you are many different women. Or that as you age, you must keep him from learning the horrible horrible truth. That you are AGING. Nevermind that men age too. That's a whole separate youth-worship culture. And really, guys I think that's a knock at your attention span.
Frankly, I'd be offended by the whole "beauty" industry if I were a man. Doesn't it ever piss you off that Madison Avenue is constantly telling you what standard you should judge beauty by? If you happen to like that, fine. What if you like something else? Does that somehow makes you less of a man?
So yes - I think all those things ARE oppressive. But they are choices. I choose whether or not I want to buy into that mentality. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I'm a social creature, and sometimes I like the game. And I'm equally awesome in jeans, sweats, heels, makeup, nailpolish or buck ass naked. For what it's worth, I think I am at my personal hottest every day after I get out of the shower while brushing my teeth. Just so the world knows.
But why is there always something ELSE? Do lines ever get drawn? I guess not, in a capitalist society.
I'm not 8 years old. I don't WANT a butterfly or a snowflake or a flower or a cobra on my cooch. Hell, I don't want bows on my bras or shoes! If someone gets close enough to me to want to LOOK at my vagina, and I want to let him, I want him to see ME. Not some sticker reminiscent of a My Little Pony tramp stamp. Peel back all the layers of hairstyles and clothing and makeup and emotions and choices and mistakes and the shapes I choose to take, and know that underneath I am always the loyal, loving, enduring, rocksteady woman that he wants. I want him to see the best friend, and the lover, and the vixen, and all the beauty and potential and worth of what I am and always always have the possibility to be.
I've got enough defense mechanisms that I hide behind. I don't need to pay 12.95 for one covered in rhinestones.
Who invented this thing anyway? That's what I really went on the FAQ's to find out.