My hunch about Joe was totally right! You really captured the mindset so very well.
I've had a few stalkers in the past and the worst one was called Joe :O He stands out as the worst one because he genunely did seem to think there was some sort of relationship between us, whereas the other two didn't actually think that. He basically harassed me for the better part of a year. When I decided I was done walking on eggshells because he wasn't getting the message that I a) had a boyfriend and b) wasn't interested, I told him to leave me alone and he sent me a message saying "Well, it's over then" and that was so chilling to me. He then proceeded to send me about 15 more messages saying how he'd seen every therapist in the area... Itstill creeps me out when I give it a lot of thought, especially as he knew where I lived, would walk by there frequently and tried to lure me to his place (he lived close by) and he knew I was 16 (15 when it started) and he was 40!.
I'm so sorry you had that experienec! I really feel for you! It is scary and it takes a long time to not look over your shoulder constantly. "Well, it's over then" would have scared me to the core. Those words carry so much in that situation. I'm very happy that you got away from the guy (sorry his name was Joe in the story) and were able to move on without it getting violent. Go you for putting your foot down and not letting him have control over your life! That took a lot of courage and I really admire that! <3
It is scary and it takes a long time to not look over your shoulder constantly. It definitely does. For a long time after that I always felt like I had to be on guard when I'd be walking around outside because he lived and worked nearby and the internet cafe' where we met and where he would go every evening, was also nearby , so for a long time after that it was like a horrible game of look-out-for-joe whenever I was outside :\
(sorry his name was Joe in the story) absolutely no need to apologize! <33
"Well, it's over then" would have scared me to the core. Those words carry so much in that situation. Argh, IKR! My first instinct was "Wait... What?!" and I did actually send back "What exactly does it's over mean?!" because I wanted confirmation of this just in case I needed it as evidence, plus wanted to know exactly what he meant because, having a tendency to be paranoid anyway it did cross my mind that he might try and physically do something to me if he thought of that as final rejection. That fact that he thought we had a
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It really was so unsettling; the fact that he believed we had a relationship when there was absolutely no reason for him to, plus I had repeatedly talked about my boyfriend in front of him and he'd heard me talking to my boyfriend on the phone, (so there was no way he could have tried to say my bf didn't exist) - just completely floored me. I'd never experienced anything like that before and it was the thing that worried me the most; because no matter how obvious it was to others that I'd never led him to believe we were anything more than acquaintances, he truly thought we had a relationship... D8
I've had a few stalkers in the past and the worst one was called Joe :O He stands out as the worst one because he genunely did seem to think there was some sort of relationship between us, whereas the other two didn't actually think that. He basically harassed me for the better part of a year.
When I decided I was done walking on eggshells because he wasn't getting the message that I a) had a boyfriend and b) wasn't interested, I told him to leave me alone and he sent me a message saying "Well, it's over then" and that was so chilling to me. He then proceeded to send me about 15 more messages saying how he'd seen every therapist in the area... Itstill creeps me out when I give it a lot of thought, especially as he knew where I lived, would walk by there frequently and tried to lure me to his place (he lived close by) and he knew I was 16 (15 when it started) and he was 40!.
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(sorry his name was Joe in the story) absolutely no need to apologize! <33
"Well, it's over then" would have scared me to the core. Those words carry so much in that situation. Argh, IKR! My first instinct was "Wait... What?!" and I did actually send back "What exactly does it's over mean?!" because I wanted confirmation of this just in case I needed it as evidence, plus wanted to know exactly what he meant because, having a tendency to be paranoid anyway it did cross my mind that he might try and physically do something to me if he thought of that as final rejection. That fact that he thought we had a ( ... )
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It really was so unsettling; the fact that he believed we had a relationship when there was absolutely no reason for him to, plus I had repeatedly talked about my boyfriend in front of him and he'd heard me talking to my boyfriend on the phone, (so there was no way he could have tried to say my bf didn't exist) - just completely floored me.
I'd never experienced anything like that before and it was the thing that worried me the most; because no matter how obvious it was to others that I'd never led him to believe we were anything more than acquaintances, he truly thought we had a relationship... D8
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