Hey! It is idlerat's birthday! AND it is eponis's birthday! AND AND, for those of you who know her, it is also the birthday of my beloved sister S.! Happy Birthday to them!11 ( Read more... )

Well, my brother's wedding was just unspeakably depressing, so let us not speak of it. Heteronormativity gives me an itchy rash, but you knew that. Let us -- and by us I mean me -- instead give thanks to those who cheered me up after, in 24 hours in the City That Cheers Me Up: bowdlerized, cubby66, stillwell, Matty O., Amanda, twotoedsloth and idlerat most of all. I love you and miss you ( Read more... )

This was the wrong week in which to post a big thinky thing, because it was the week which required me to go about my business minus one full night's sleep, so now I owe about a zillion replies to long thoughtful well-reasoned comments on my last post, and I can't do much about it because we are about to leave town for a week, most of far away from ( Read more... )

Marriage and heteronormativity have been much on my mind lately for a number of reasons. ( What it adds up to, for me, is that marriage as an institution extracts labor from women for the benefit of men. )