When It Ends...
For those who know me well know that one of my biggest goals in life is to have a "significant other". I understand that this can't really be a goal, because it's out of my control. Still, I want to have that guy. The idea of having that guy sit by me, talk to me, hold my hand, give me hugs, etc., makes me smile and happy. That's just the IDEA! When it actually happens, *sigh* I don't know what I'll do, but I'll probably try to keep and appreciate every moment and memory with that person.
That brings me to the topic of this entry (it's definitely not about my failure with guys). It makes me extremely sad to hear about people breaking up or cheating or guys who can just have however many girls they want. I use to believe that guys like that are rare. I hear about them through the grapevine but rarely meet one. *Side note: the reason why it's so rare is because my guy friends from highschool are top notch guys. It is only here in San Diego where I've seen so many guys going around without a care. I understand that girls can do the same things, but, since I'm a girl, I notice more guys do this. They will completely take for granted something they have, and go around with other girls. I've met guys who will not commit and I've met guys who are in relationships who still go around. I know what you're thinking, "these guys must be complete jerks". They're not. Some of them are actually my friends. They're amazing guys. It's just the whole relationship thing that we don't seem to see eye to eye. In an effort to explain our different perspectives, my floormate once said "it's because you're old school".
I am old school. I still believe in meeting by chance and then dating. Intimacy is very real to me. I've never made out with a random guy at some party, and I hope I never will. It's just not how I roll. I understand that some people have a different perspective and that's fine. It's your life. All I'm saying is that it makes me sad to witness romance dying.
Don't go into a relationship if you don't love the person. That's my rule and it will stay the same. Date first. Then, if you feel something for the other person (other than the urge to get in their pants) then ask to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. This is a great way to avoid breakups -- not being in the relationship in the first place.
For people IN a relationship, think before you act. Never make big decisions when you're angry. Think first. I'm not saying never break up. Be honest. I've seen a lot of people better off apart. I'm just saying that you should not cause the other person such pain if you're not serious about it. I've never experience heartbreak, but I've heard that it's a bitch.
People should lead the lives they want to lead, but they should remember that they're not the only ones in the world. As I grow older, I realize that I affect people. I make it a goal to respect how they feel and I try to be honest with them. It's a weird and difficult combination, but I do my best. There's so much hate going on in this world, I don't think you want to contribute more. Let's all be careful of how we affect other people's feelings.
As for being "old school", I hope there is a guy out there that's "old school" as well, who will prove that romance isn't dead. I can wait. I've BEEN waiting and I'm doing alright. As for now I do the best I can to get by. I observe the world and I hope for people's happiness and not for the satisfaction of their current urges. =)
Happy Monday
That brings me to the topic of this entry (it's definitely not about my failure with guys). It makes me extremely sad to hear about people breaking up or cheating or guys who can just have however many girls they want. I use to believe that guys like that are rare. I hear about them through the grapevine but rarely meet one. *Side note: the reason why it's so rare is because my guy friends from highschool are top notch guys. It is only here in San Diego where I've seen so many guys going around without a care. I understand that girls can do the same things, but, since I'm a girl, I notice more guys do this. They will completely take for granted something they have, and go around with other girls. I've met guys who will not commit and I've met guys who are in relationships who still go around. I know what you're thinking, "these guys must be complete jerks". They're not. Some of them are actually my friends. They're amazing guys. It's just the whole relationship thing that we don't seem to see eye to eye. In an effort to explain our different perspectives, my floormate once said "it's because you're old school".
I am old school. I still believe in meeting by chance and then dating. Intimacy is very real to me. I've never made out with a random guy at some party, and I hope I never will. It's just not how I roll. I understand that some people have a different perspective and that's fine. It's your life. All I'm saying is that it makes me sad to witness romance dying.
Don't go into a relationship if you don't love the person. That's my rule and it will stay the same. Date first. Then, if you feel something for the other person (other than the urge to get in their pants) then ask to be their boyfriend/girlfriend. This is a great way to avoid breakups -- not being in the relationship in the first place.
For people IN a relationship, think before you act. Never make big decisions when you're angry. Think first. I'm not saying never break up. Be honest. I've seen a lot of people better off apart. I'm just saying that you should not cause the other person such pain if you're not serious about it. I've never experience heartbreak, but I've heard that it's a bitch.
People should lead the lives they want to lead, but they should remember that they're not the only ones in the world. As I grow older, I realize that I affect people. I make it a goal to respect how they feel and I try to be honest with them. It's a weird and difficult combination, but I do my best. There's so much hate going on in this world, I don't think you want to contribute more. Let's all be careful of how we affect other people's feelings.
As for being "old school", I hope there is a guy out there that's "old school" as well, who will prove that romance isn't dead. I can wait. I've BEEN waiting and I'm doing alright. As for now I do the best I can to get by. I observe the world and I hope for people's happiness and not for the satisfaction of their current urges. =)
Happy Monday