Impolite and Infuriating --
Okay. I'm about to post a very shallow, lame, complaint-filled post. But, I don't have anywhere else to go with this. So to give some background:
My family doesn't drive. We just don't. We're city-dwellers, and we don't drive. It's never been a problem for any of us, with public transportation and walking, or bike riding, etc. Well, recently my aunt decided to buy a new Jeep Cherokee and is therefore driving everywhere [despite not being rich and despite the horrific gas prices]. The next logical step in the showing-off process is to offer rides to everyone, including my mother.
Two days in a row now my Aunt has come over to get my mother to take her to the store. Two days in a row she's dropped off her son for me to watch. No warning, no asking, nothing. My mom goes out the door and he comes in the door. Totally unexpectedly and most unwelcome.
I know everyone must think I'm a horrible person, but just hear me out: My cousin is 11 [he might be 12] and is the spawn of Satan. Not saying much about my Aunt, I know. But he loves to slowly kill animals, hurt kids, swear, lie, kick dogs [I have two], trick, steal, cheat, etc. Again, most of this sounds like normal boy things [except the killing and hurting], but he does it worse in every way. My sister lost her top two teeth at the age of four because he pushed her down a FLIGHT of stairs. He's thrown a ball into a road that had an oncoming semi and then told my [then 5] year old sister to go get it. Which she tried. If I hadn't been there, she would have been hit. He's obsessed with guns, knives, killing, etc. He snaps and goes off on violent tangents, destroying everything in sight. I've seen him smash dishes, stomp on his mother's valuables, swear like no other and fling himself to the floor in a devilish rage. And I'm not even naming the worst of the worst he's done.
Needless to say, I refuse to watch him. My Aunt knows this -- I say no EVERY time, I refuse to be alone with him, I don't allow him in my kitchen when he's here even with his mother. He's not allowed near my dog, he isn't allowed to do basically anything except sit on my living room couch until his mom arrives. So when she does come back [and one time she did this, she didn't come home for almost 16 hours] he has nothing but horrible things to say about me, and thus falls into a FIT of anger and ends up ruining more of my shit. Then, my Aunt gets mad at ME and storms out.
This has become a cycle and I'm furious right now. Currently, he's here [reason why I'm finally getting this all out] and yelling at the top of his lungs while being ordered to stay in the kitchen chair. He got here less than ten minutes ago. He's saying words that I usually don't even use unless massively provoked. He's already pushed my dog down when Odie ran up to him, called him a name, and pretty much immediately started yelling.
I'm steaming. I don't understand what kind of parent just throws her kid out of the car and just expects someone else to watch them. What if I hadn't been home, or what if I was in the shower? So many things could have come up, and he would just walked in and trashed my house, stole my money and then walked out.
I'm stressed.
My family doesn't drive. We just don't. We're city-dwellers, and we don't drive. It's never been a problem for any of us, with public transportation and walking, or bike riding, etc. Well, recently my aunt decided to buy a new Jeep Cherokee and is therefore driving everywhere [despite not being rich and despite the horrific gas prices]. The next logical step in the showing-off process is to offer rides to everyone, including my mother.
Two days in a row now my Aunt has come over to get my mother to take her to the store. Two days in a row she's dropped off her son for me to watch. No warning, no asking, nothing. My mom goes out the door and he comes in the door. Totally unexpectedly and most unwelcome.
I know everyone must think I'm a horrible person, but just hear me out: My cousin is 11 [he might be 12] and is the spawn of Satan. Not saying much about my Aunt, I know. But he loves to slowly kill animals, hurt kids, swear, lie, kick dogs [I have two], trick, steal, cheat, etc. Again, most of this sounds like normal boy things [except the killing and hurting], but he does it worse in every way. My sister lost her top two teeth at the age of four because he pushed her down a FLIGHT of stairs. He's thrown a ball into a road that had an oncoming semi and then told my [then 5] year old sister to go get it. Which she tried. If I hadn't been there, she would have been hit. He's obsessed with guns, knives, killing, etc. He snaps and goes off on violent tangents, destroying everything in sight. I've seen him smash dishes, stomp on his mother's valuables, swear like no other and fling himself to the floor in a devilish rage. And I'm not even naming the worst of the worst he's done.
Needless to say, I refuse to watch him. My Aunt knows this -- I say no EVERY time, I refuse to be alone with him, I don't allow him in my kitchen when he's here even with his mother. He's not allowed near my dog, he isn't allowed to do basically anything except sit on my living room couch until his mom arrives. So when she does come back [and one time she did this, she didn't come home for almost 16 hours] he has nothing but horrible things to say about me, and thus falls into a FIT of anger and ends up ruining more of my shit. Then, my Aunt gets mad at ME and storms out.
This has become a cycle and I'm furious right now. Currently, he's here [reason why I'm finally getting this all out] and yelling at the top of his lungs while being ordered to stay in the kitchen chair. He got here less than ten minutes ago. He's saying words that I usually don't even use unless massively provoked. He's already pushed my dog down when Odie ran up to him, called him a name, and pretty much immediately started yelling.
I'm steaming. I don't understand what kind of parent just throws her kid out of the car and just expects someone else to watch them. What if I hadn't been home, or what if I was in the shower? So many things could have come up, and he would just walked in and trashed my house, stole my money and then walked out.
I'm stressed.