It's hard to say, honestly. I am romantically jelous of my wife, in the sense that I don't want her hooking up with other people, and would not want to be part of a "three person relationship". OTOH, If she wanted to sleep with someone without a relationship I would be up for discussing it so long as they did not have a relationship occur between them. This does not mean this is what either of us looks for, but it's what I would allow. Being a clueless hetboy, I would have even less reservations with her hooking up with a female, esp. a bi female we could both hook up with. I guess if I were bi it would be easier. What would be important to me is that she is mine at the end of the day. We dont have an open marriage, really, just a state with a potential for other mates. Basically, my rule is if you want to have a fling, talk to me about it...preferebly before you talk to him/her about it.
But not everyone works that way. I have close friends who would see that as an awful thing, and I can't blame them for that.
You know, having been on the moral objector end more times than I would have preferred (I guess that meant that people were comfortable around me...) I can say with even greater conviction that the crux of any morality, whether or not related to relationships and jealousy, is the respect for someone else's boundaries. Being so often the odd man out in terms of morality it's my point of view that an alternative morality can rarely be said to be without merit; any well-defined moral position is better than a simple lack of convictions. Most people never have that sentiment occur to them, but when it comes to friends it's not so big a deal as long as they don't cast aspersions on you based strictly on their own moral point-of-view.
But not everyone works that way. I have close friends who would see that as an awful thing, and I can't blame them for that.
Just my limited experiance.
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