it hurts but it might be the only way

[lissie_pissie]

"Friends". I think I'm starting to get it. And move past that superficial "omg this show is amazing" stage, and into the "no, this really was a big deal and if I think about it enough, I could completely cry because it is over" stage. And I feel like I missed out, and now I must know how those of you who are late to XF must feel right now. I mean,

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[all_shine_on]

My friends and I are sort of approaching this point and it's getting really really sad. We're getting jobs and moving and there's just less time to be *friends*. It's something that at least we're aware of and fighting to redefine who we are to each other now that we're not in 10th grade.

[lissie_pissie]

It's SO sad. I really have issues with growing up. You're right, there's just less time. And when people grow up, they lose their imagination and carelessness and innocence and without those things, it just gets harder and harder.

[all_shine_on]

I have issues with the idea that there are certain things you must and must not do as a 'grownup'. I mean, fuck that. I will do what I want, no matter what my age. I try not to buy into the idea that the kind of life I will lead as an adult is already defined. I actually read a really great article a while back about "Grups" which are the new kind of grown ups. Who aren't slaves to work, who don't get mom jeans and who are trying to redefine adulthood. It was very cool.

[lissie_pissie]

Oh, that will so be me - mom jeans aren't my style. I agree that I'll do whatever I want to, too, I just worry that I'll end up wanting different things than I'd want now, if that makes sense. I'm just worried about life wearing me down.

[all_shine_on]

Ah ha! I found it-it's a pretty cool read, I think:

http://nymag.com/news/features/16529/

[lissie_pissie]

OMG. THIS IS SO. INSPIRING.

(h) wear the same vintage New Balance sneakers that he wore on his first day of school in the seventh grade as a fashion statement; - LOVE IT.

(j) quit the office job because-you know what?-screw the office and screw jockeying for that promotion to VP, because isn’t promotion just another word for “slavery”?; - OH, this is SO me.

To motivate a baby boomer, offer him a bonus. To motivate a Generation-Xer, offer him a day off. - SO. TRUE.

[all_shine_on]

I loved it because I felt so validated that other people were doing what I wanted to do. Like, my mother offered me a part time holiday at her office temping as the receptionist and could not believe it when I said no. I've done that for her before and it honest to god destroys me from the inside. I can feel my soul dying. Some people can do that, I am not one of them. And I don't care if it's a lot of money if I'm not HAPPY.

[lissie_pissie]

OMG I KNOW! THAT'S EXACTLY ME TOO!! God, I remember one time my mother and I got into a HUGE fight over it, we were both screaming and crying because I said I'd rather have a job that I love and make just enough money to get by than be frickin LOADED and miserable. It's not worth it. We're so different, us and our moms.

[all_shine_on]

Yea, I'm going to be a teacher and my mother was rather concerned for awhile. She seems much more supportive now, but that could also be a reflection of me feeling so much more certain myself. It's not a high paying job (or at least not the highest) but it's what I want so it's what I'm going to do. Right now I work as a daycare leader/nanny/mother's helper and luckily those are things I love and I'm getting paid decently as well.