it hurts but it might be the only way

[lissie_pissie]

"Friends". I think I'm starting to get it. And move past that superficial "omg this show is amazing" stage, and into the "no, this really was a big deal and if I think about it enough, I could completely cry because it is over" stage. And I feel like I missed out, and now I must know how those of you who are late to XF must feel right now. I mean,

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[all_shine_on]

My friends and I are sort of approaching this point and it's getting really really sad. We're getting jobs and moving and there's just less time to be *friends*. It's something that at least we're aware of and fighting to redefine who we are to each other now that we're not in 10th grade.

[lissie_pissie]

It's SO sad. I really have issues with growing up. You're right, there's just less time. And when people grow up, they lose their imagination and carelessness and innocence and without those things, it just gets harder and harder.

[all_shine_on]

I have issues with the idea that there are certain things you must and must not do as a 'grownup'. I mean, fuck that. I will do what I want, no matter what my age. I try not to buy into the idea that the kind of life I will lead as an adult is already defined. I actually read a really great article a while back about "Grups" which are the new kind of grown ups. Who aren't slaves to work, who don't get mom jeans and who are trying to redefine adulthood. It was very cool.

[lissie_pissie]

Oh, that will so be me - mom jeans aren't my style. I agree that I'll do whatever I want to, too, I just worry that I'll end up wanting different things than I'd want now, if that makes sense. I'm just worried about life wearing me down.

[athenaraven]

-hugs-

Friends was this amazing phenomenon. I grew up watching it and I still catch reruns. It's a comforting constant in my life. I can count on it to make me feel better when I feel sad. You're right, nothing lasts forever, but you can rewatch them, enjoy them again and again. You can't say that for other things in life.

[lissie_pissie]

you can rewatch them, enjoy them again and again. You can't say that for other things in life
thank god for that. and you're right - it's sad that our lives aren't all captured on dvds :(

[nitsa_maro]

Nothing last forever but in my heart they will always be best Friends no matter what!!! After 10 years they aren't just characters playing a part but people i grew up with,laughing,crying,falling in love (I always cry at the last scene)..did you make any sense of all this?

[lissie_pissie]

SO. MUCH. LOVE.
♥ ♥ ♥

and it does make sense. I'm not so sad about the SHOW as I am about the CONCEPT of it. How when you find something really great in your own life, really great friends, a really great apartment, all that stuff, you can only stay there for so long before you have to grow up and move on. It just makes me so, so sad.

And like that first picture!! That's exactly what I'm talking about! Look at them, look how happy they are. And that's not Chandler and Rachel, that's Matthew and Jennifer. And THEY, as real people, had to leave that really great place in their life, too. :(

[lissie_pissie]

I know. ♥ It's hard to talk about it when it's gone, just because, idk, it's harder. Like before XF2 happened, I hardly talked about X-Files even though it's one of the biggest things I've ever had. It just fades when there's not new stuff. :(

[lissie_pissie]

omg i know!!! my mom and i were just talking about this! Friends is probably THE best investment out there in terms of DVDs. because years later, it is STILL fucking funny. and i still literally LOL at least five times every single episode.

[spoopy]

Oh yeah. Life in general is about constantly growing up and leaving things and people behind. You gain new things and new people along the way, but they never replace the things you move on from or lose. God only knows how many times I've learned that lesson myself. It's a lesson you never get used to, either, and the things you really can't go back to no matter how much you want to leave the biggest impact.

I guess that's why when shows end, the ones that we really develop relationships and attachments to, it affects us so much because we can relate to that whole moving on thing. When Six Feet Under finished, I was just in an absolute mess. I was crying and carrying on, lol. I developed such an immense bond with that show. The same will likely happen the day House airs its final episode.

[lissie_pissie]

That's exactly what it is. And for everything that happens in these shows, it marks something that's going on in our own life. And shows ending are just a painful reminder that everything we have will eventually leave or change too.

the things you really can't go back to no matter how much you want to leave the biggest impact
tell me about it :(

[spoopy]

Yeah. Life is so weird like that. You definitely notice it more the older you get - all the things you have done, the things you should have done, the things you could have done, and all the opportunities, both missed and gained. And the impact people have left on your life. You really can't comprehend how much of an impact someone has on your life until they're gone forever. At least with TV shows, we can relive them over and over.