Tony's sister, Annie, and her husband won a trip to the Grammys so they were in LA this past weekend. We all went out to lunch on Monday and his sister loves me okay, she is constantly saying how Tony and I need to get married. She is sweet and we had such a nice time. She even gave me some ~Grammy Swag~ because it was hair product that she couldn't take on the plane. SCOAR. We went to a rooftop restaurant in Santa Monica,
such a beautiful place.
I got chicken flatbread and then Annie and I lobbied to get a round of mini ice cream cones, THEY ARE THE CUTEST EVER AND ALSO DELICIOUS. They are served in little shot glasses of sugar, and Tony thought it'd be a brilliant idea to full on snort sugar through his straw. I wish I had been filming it, his face contorted like hell and it was so disgusting and lol who does that. I do love having friends who are slightly childish, though, in that they don't seem to give a fuck about how they're seen. I really, really value that. And there's a great juxtaposition between that and then picking up the huge check without a second thought. It was really sweet of him and I love that he manages to make a really decent living while simultaneously not giving a fuck and being so unabashedly who he is. That is my only life goal.
We went shopping at the outdoor mall down the road, I picked up a book for Lindsey about how much geeky women rule, and then we got dragged into the Disney store because Annie ♥s it. I don't know if she and Bill are trying to have a baby but she kept saying things about their children and she never really did that before. Tony found a Buzz Lightyear raincoat and matching umbrella and said he'd get it for their kid. LOL he was so excited. Then there was a little Toy Story camera and he was like, "I will buy your child all the cameras they need" and she was like, "Are you talking to me or Alyssa? *hint hint*" LOL cute RL shippage. Then we all sang and danced to Colors of the Wind. We dropped them off at the airport and then on the way back, Tony asked if I'd like to help out on a music video in Palm Springs next weekend. I am all about it. Then he told me that I need to get more aggressive/assertive with my set stills and I told him the first film traumatized me because whenever I tried to take the slightest bit of initiative, I got my head bitten off. So he said to just try again and if I wasn't sure about something, to just ask him first. And that will be SO fucking helpful because I'm never quite sure what I'm allowed to do, if I can "direct" the talent for shots, etc.
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I hung out with my second cousin, Rob, on Tuesday. We were going to go to downtown Hollywood but he picked me up at 2 and was like, "Fuck this, we're going to Orange County." lol, like the first thing he said when I got in the car. He's always been one of my favorite relatives but I didn't get to see him much because he was always living somewhere else. He's super active on Facebook though, and really witty so we banter all the time. He lives here and writes technology user manuals or some shit, I'm not exactly sure. But I was looking forward to hanging out with him. The problem, though, is that he apparently has super bad ADD? Like we didn't talk about it and I'm not positive but he was just omg off the walls, bouncing from topic to topic so quickly I couldn't even. I got used to it but at first I was like, "Oh my god I need to get out of the car" lol.
But he touched on the life goal thing as well. "Don't chase money - chase what you love, and the money will come." It's just scary not to worry about it, or to live as if it doesn't matter. I used to be good at that I think but now I just freak out. Anyway. He took me to Huntington Beach, we went out to the end of the pier and he also told me about how after I've been here for a couple of weeks, I'll probably start to get depressed. You know, once the ~honeymoon phase~ wears off and I told him I think I'm already starting that. He said it's important to recognize that it's normal, and that it's temporary. And that was really helpful.
We walked a couple of blocks to an outdoor bar for a couple of drinks as the sun set. He talked a lot about a girl he's not over, Jeanine, and just... the things he was saying about her, I told him I had a Jeanine and his name was Nick. I'm "over" him but the way he described it when they were in the same space, it was remarkably similar.
He took me to dinner at some place that started with a B, I don't remember. But he ordered us cornbread that was to die for, mac and cheese that was also to die for (he's convinced it's laced with crack), and then a rotisserie chicken that was DELICIOUS. Toward the end he just shoved what seemed like a whole chicken on my plate and I was like, "ARE THERE BONES IN THIS" and he said yes and I asked him to get rid of them because if I see them, the chicken will be ruined lol. "That's the first time I've heard you whine all night!" lol like he was really surprised. Some bitch kept bumping into him, we were sitting at the bar and he turned around and was like, "Are we okay here? Do you need me to move over?" like totally nice and this bitch went on and ON about how, "Yeah... that'd be great... you know, if it's not bothering you.... if it's not too inconvenient for you..." seriously, fucking ONGOING until Rob was like, "I wasn't trying to be mean about it..." and she was like, "WELL IT SOUNDED LIKE IT". And he was remarkably unfazed? Like I was pissed as hell and he just turned back to me and kept finishing his story like nothing happened. I asked how he was so calm about it and he was like, "Look at it this way - she's mad about something else. There's no way she was that pissed at only me. She's mad at something else, and long after we're gone, she's going to take it out on her date. And both of their Valentine's Days are going to be ruined. Kill them with kindness.~" So wise. "And when we go to leave, I'm going to offer them our seats." He did that and the bitch shook her head no! Fine, stand then, IDGAF!
We went to another bar somewhere, I'm not quite sure where, but I had moar drinks and he kept talking about what a wonderful man my grandfather was. He died when I was 7, I know my mom really loved him, my dad doesn't talk about him much because I think he's still hurt. I remember him vaguely but this conversation was priceless. Rob was talking about how when they'd all go ice fishing, his own dad wouldn't really talk to him but my grandfather was really cool and understanding, he'd constantly pull him aside and help him out, let him get away with little things, etc. It was really nice to hear because my dad's dad isn't a territory I venture into much. We talked more about the family and it was nice getting other perspectives and it was nice talking to him because he knows I'm blunt and doesn't really get offended.
We got back in the car, he offered me green tea mints and blasted The Bird & The Bee. And just driving really fast in his nice car with the sunroof open, this great music, I literally didn't care about ANYTHING and it was so fucking relaxing, I needed it so much.
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I get to edit my first "real" thing (outside of fanvideos and personal/dance things, etc) this week, behind-the-scenes features for The Guild. I'm super fucking excited and can't even wait to get the footage. Complications have been ensuing (had to leave the drive with so-and-so, etc), but I should have it by today. Does anyone watch this show? I was told I should watch S5 today just to kind of check it out.
Also, I AM ON A PB&J KICK RIGHT NOW. And I don't mean Pam Beasley & Jim, I mean the literal food.