A Few Inches
Now that I'm married, I get asked a lot of stupid questions. "Are you glad to be back at work?" is probably the dumbest one. Isn't the answer painfully obvious? I'm still getting this one even though I've been back at work for nearly 3 weeks now...
The Vice President of Distribution is a really friendly older guy, probably in his mid to late fifties. He always greets me with a loud and cheerful "Kristine!" to which I say "Hello!" because I usually can't bring myself to call him "Pete". Lately, he's taken to asking me, "How's married life?" This makes me respond in one of two ways:
1) "Good! Not much different from engaged life!"
2) "Good! How's yours?"
I said the second one today. He replied, "Good! I'll check back with you tomorrow!" Does that mean he'll update me on the status of his married life, or check up on mine?
The ones I get most frequently are "How's it feel to be married?" or "Do you feel different now that you're married?" To which I often reply, "Pretty much the same" and "Not really", respectively. And I don't feel different. Not really. Maybe one or two things have changed, but the basic core of my relationship with Sam hasn't. My life is much like it was before. I keep expecting to wake up one morning with this dawning feeling of Marriedness with a capital M. Now I'm starting to wonder if the marriedness is with a small m, and is just a gradual, subtle feeling that you don't realize was creeping up on you for a long time. Then, when you look back on this time, you realize that the feeling of being married was there the whole time. Like when you're a little kid and you don't really feel like you're growing, but then you go to the doorframe and see the mark you made the year before, and see that you've gained a couple inches. We've been married a month now (already??) and I don't feel it yet. I'll see how I feel in a year.
I'm willing to bet I'll feel really different after we have a kid, though. I'm thinking that's not a subtle change.
The Vice President of Distribution is a really friendly older guy, probably in his mid to late fifties. He always greets me with a loud and cheerful "Kristine!" to which I say "Hello!" because I usually can't bring myself to call him "Pete". Lately, he's taken to asking me, "How's married life?" This makes me respond in one of two ways:
1) "Good! Not much different from engaged life!"
2) "Good! How's yours?"
I said the second one today. He replied, "Good! I'll check back with you tomorrow!" Does that mean he'll update me on the status of his married life, or check up on mine?
The ones I get most frequently are "How's it feel to be married?" or "Do you feel different now that you're married?" To which I often reply, "Pretty much the same" and "Not really", respectively. And I don't feel different. Not really. Maybe one or two things have changed, but the basic core of my relationship with Sam hasn't. My life is much like it was before. I keep expecting to wake up one morning with this dawning feeling of Marriedness with a capital M. Now I'm starting to wonder if the marriedness is with a small m, and is just a gradual, subtle feeling that you don't realize was creeping up on you for a long time. Then, when you look back on this time, you realize that the feeling of being married was there the whole time. Like when you're a little kid and you don't really feel like you're growing, but then you go to the doorframe and see the mark you made the year before, and see that you've gained a couple inches. We've been married a month now (already??) and I don't feel it yet. I'll see how I feel in a year.
I'm willing to bet I'll feel really different after we have a kid, though. I'm thinking that's not a subtle change.