ponderings

[lilnemo]

So recent talks with kristin have brought up how both of us have exs who come and go in our lives as they peez... so now I am left to wonder, and one person could have more info on this then really anyone else... but i dont know if they would say anything but ill risk it

Comments

[monsterhouse]

If the person who might know more is meant to be me, well.. I'm sorry to say that I haven't the foggiest clue. I can only sort of guess at the people you're referring to here.

But, well, in general.. all I can say is that if you want to kind of see how things go, just do it slowly. Wait a week or two, or whatever. Don't let yourself feel pressured into anything. If it gives you a bad feeling, then stop. Or, on the other hand, if it's bothering you already, then don't respond.

[lilnemo]

yes the person who might know more would be you. Ive gotten the idea from things she has said you guys still keep in touch. dunno if that is true but she has lead me to believe that in the last few years. I am thinking not responding is the best... I was just so proud of myself because I had been the one for the first time in over 10years of this back and forth her and I do... I was the one to choose to end it... and yet she wrote me asked me for a favor and i stupidly did it... *sighs*

[monsterhouse]

Huh. No; though I can't say one way or the other for someone hearing things through the grapevine about me and all. Most of the friends I keep up with any more are either AZ friends, gaming friends, or people I know online.

Well, I'd say to let it go, then. If it causes you pain, don't pursue it.. especially since this all seems like a rather loaded conversation/situation between the two of you anyhow.

However, one important thing to remember is that an ex (especially an ex-ten-years-ago) is an ex, which means that the most they can be any more is a friend. And, as I am living proof of, many friends tend to drift in and out as life changes. It's often got nothing to do with anything personal.. and generally just means that something unavoidable took over in the front of their mind. Sometimes people don't write just because they have nothing to say. I'm not saying that you should apply such logic to this particular situation, but it is a good thing to keep in mind just so you don't lose perspective.

[lilnemo]

normal ppl normal situation I woudl agree about the whole friend thing. Like I know you have a lot and so do I, and we drift in and out but are always 'around' but hrm.. im not sure how to word it... in my mind things made a lot more sense when I found out I was the first person she ever dated... I never realized she had never been with anyone... it kind of put things in perspective. it is just over the years ive been told by outsiders i am the thron in her side... yet it is almost like she enjoys having me there... dunno too much thought... this is the bad part of midterms I think about other things.

anywho I appreciate you given thought to these ponderings *huggles*