Dean Van Vechten on boys and sexual assult
A lot has happened in my life but before I get back to my thesis I think everyone should be aware that Dean Van Vechten would like you to know that not all men are violent and that violence can also be committed by women. He personally intends on keeping Wells a safe environment for all and that he takes all incidences seriously regardless of the gender of the persecutor.
Therefore it can be assumed that if next year a male student sexually assaults a woman and the woman reports it, Dean Van Vechten will make responding a priority. He will dutifully tell the woman that the man who just sexually assaulted her is a confused and scared freshman and that she is just uncomfortable with men. Beside Dean Van Vechten knows that women can take care of themselves. Then Dean Van Vechten will tell her to apologize to her attacker for the inconvenience of his very serious 2 day investigation. After the apology the women will need to forgive the man but he doesn’t have to forgive her for telling the truth.
Just to prove that this is all official the woman will also be forced to sign a paper saying she will never tell any one about the incident. That way the man can continue to harass her and she can’t warn her friends or go to them for support. That is ok though because Dean Van Vechten will be there for her and he forgets that he is a staff member sometimes anyway.
To deal with the campus rumors the incident shouldn’t be reported. Any eye witnesses will probably drop out college so there is no need to worry there. If is comes up in an RA meeting, the RAs should be notified that nothing happened and of how confused the woman was. They will probably also be told that the woman was drunk even if she has never tasted alcohol.
If for some reason the women doesn’t like the situation; that is ok to. There are therapists in the med center for women who don’t know their place. Also, taking medication is good, because a woman should feel comfortable sitting in class 5 DAYS A WEEK with the man who sexually assaulted her. Besides, if she can’t hack it, she should change her schedule or leave for a semester because even if her attacker said he wouldn’t sign up for her required classes the next semester before she signed the contract, Dean Van Vechten is smart enough to know there is no way to keep a man to his word.
So the students have nothing to fear because Dean Van Vechten has prior experience with sexual assault right here at Wells and he is committed to the protection and safety of all, especially those who hurt others…
Part of me feels bad posting this. Like I am talk about Dean Van Vechten behind is back. I am not upset. I feel less guilty insulting him directly; there would be fewer consequences to him even if there were more for me. It has been a long time since I’ve done that. I thought that might happen tonight but there wasn’t even a close call. I wouldn’t say anything to him in front of other people. The only risk was me running into him on my way back to Weld. If I had I think I would have just glared. I don’t think he is affected by what I do anyway; another reason not to feel bad insulting him. Over 2 years ago I got the impression that it had come to the point where he had already invalidated my opinion so many times my thoughts and feelings were irrelevant to him. He assumed that whatever I thought of him had little to do with him. He still cared about me at that point but only in a condescending way. My experience wasn’t real to him.
I think he found the consistency of my anger surprising later. I got the impression that he believed that seeing a therapist would lead me to believe what he did was acceptable in someway. The opposite was true. For a long time I thought I was wrong and he was right. Self confidence was the only thing that allowed me to think of him as a self protecting bastard.
Really it isn’t all his fault anyway. Dean Green came up with the contract. He is the only one I have never talked to. After a point time doesn’t result conflicts, only allows them to fester.
I wonder if Dean Van Vechten has changed in the past 2 years. Then I hear things that are all too believable. Besides, it isn’t like the guy has ever apologized. None of the deans have ever commit to a different plan. Though others have acknowledged that the way they handled my case was suboptimal an apologized for its harmful effects.
I also think some of the people here should know that Wells is not a safe place for women. Wells is empowering only because seems like one. Reality is frequently irrelevant. The visual presence of men will change that perception and possibly emotional safety but probably won’t change the physical safety.
I think I agreed with what Dean Van Vechten was saying more then most of the audience. The hypocritical nature of it pissed me of though. The fact that he had the nerve to say he took the issue seriously regardless of gender in front of me says something. Probably that he doesn’t understand what he did wrong. He never understood me, just had the patience to keep trying.
Therefore it can be assumed that if next year a male student sexually assaults a woman and the woman reports it, Dean Van Vechten will make responding a priority. He will dutifully tell the woman that the man who just sexually assaulted her is a confused and scared freshman and that she is just uncomfortable with men. Beside Dean Van Vechten knows that women can take care of themselves. Then Dean Van Vechten will tell her to apologize to her attacker for the inconvenience of his very serious 2 day investigation. After the apology the women will need to forgive the man but he doesn’t have to forgive her for telling the truth.
Just to prove that this is all official the woman will also be forced to sign a paper saying she will never tell any one about the incident. That way the man can continue to harass her and she can’t warn her friends or go to them for support. That is ok though because Dean Van Vechten will be there for her and he forgets that he is a staff member sometimes anyway.
To deal with the campus rumors the incident shouldn’t be reported. Any eye witnesses will probably drop out college so there is no need to worry there. If is comes up in an RA meeting, the RAs should be notified that nothing happened and of how confused the woman was. They will probably also be told that the woman was drunk even if she has never tasted alcohol.
If for some reason the women doesn’t like the situation; that is ok to. There are therapists in the med center for women who don’t know their place. Also, taking medication is good, because a woman should feel comfortable sitting in class 5 DAYS A WEEK with the man who sexually assaulted her. Besides, if she can’t hack it, she should change her schedule or leave for a semester because even if her attacker said he wouldn’t sign up for her required classes the next semester before she signed the contract, Dean Van Vechten is smart enough to know there is no way to keep a man to his word.
So the students have nothing to fear because Dean Van Vechten has prior experience with sexual assault right here at Wells and he is committed to the protection and safety of all, especially those who hurt others…
Part of me feels bad posting this. Like I am talk about Dean Van Vechten behind is back. I am not upset. I feel less guilty insulting him directly; there would be fewer consequences to him even if there were more for me. It has been a long time since I’ve done that. I thought that might happen tonight but there wasn’t even a close call. I wouldn’t say anything to him in front of other people. The only risk was me running into him on my way back to Weld. If I had I think I would have just glared. I don’t think he is affected by what I do anyway; another reason not to feel bad insulting him. Over 2 years ago I got the impression that it had come to the point where he had already invalidated my opinion so many times my thoughts and feelings were irrelevant to him. He assumed that whatever I thought of him had little to do with him. He still cared about me at that point but only in a condescending way. My experience wasn’t real to him.
I think he found the consistency of my anger surprising later. I got the impression that he believed that seeing a therapist would lead me to believe what he did was acceptable in someway. The opposite was true. For a long time I thought I was wrong and he was right. Self confidence was the only thing that allowed me to think of him as a self protecting bastard.
Really it isn’t all his fault anyway. Dean Green came up with the contract. He is the only one I have never talked to. After a point time doesn’t result conflicts, only allows them to fester.
I wonder if Dean Van Vechten has changed in the past 2 years. Then I hear things that are all too believable. Besides, it isn’t like the guy has ever apologized. None of the deans have ever commit to a different plan. Though others have acknowledged that the way they handled my case was suboptimal an apologized for its harmful effects.
I also think some of the people here should know that Wells is not a safe place for women. Wells is empowering only because seems like one. Reality is frequently irrelevant. The visual presence of men will change that perception and possibly emotional safety but probably won’t change the physical safety.
I think I agreed with what Dean Van Vechten was saying more then most of the audience. The hypocritical nature of it pissed me of though. The fact that he had the nerve to say he took the issue seriously regardless of gender in front of me says something. Probably that he doesn’t understand what he did wrong. He never understood me, just had the patience to keep trying.