Red lentils I just cooked soft with lemon grass, coriander, cumin, and a dry sherry taste suspiciously meat-like and I can't figure out why. Delicious though
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Nope, the two are often related, yet distinct things.
Asexuals may experience arousal or they may not. Some masturbate and some don't, some are fetishists (they find arousal from objects or situations, for instance, but not people -- some might even become aroused by people in certain situations but still have no desire to engage in sexual activities with anyone). I think it's more common among asexuals to not experience arousal and/or to not feel the need to masturbate than among the general public, and that asexuals might tend to be more likely ok with that fact and not see it as something that needs to be fixed though I'm not sure of the numbers there.
One popular way of helping someone understand it is if you yourself are heterosexual or gay -- there is a population of the people that you generally do not find sexually attractive based on their sex alone. We would feel toward all people the same way you feel, sexually, toward those that you don't find yourself attracted to in general because of your orientation.
This brings us right to romantic attraction though, I mean if it weren't for that what would Lev and I have? Maybe friendship. Some asexuals identify as aromantic also, they feel no romantic attraction to others. Others, like myself, experience romantic attraction which generally entails wanting all of the same things anyone else would want from a romantic relationship (partnership, maybe commitment, wanting to share experiences and life in general, having the same or compatible likes and dislikes, etc) except that we have no interest in having sex with the person.
It's absolutely fine with me if you ask, feel free to ask as many questions as you want. Always glad to help fix the misunderstandings.
Thanks so much! I always though asexuals just didn't have that feeling of arousal, maybe not even in a libido sense but just ever, and I blame this on dating someone with Kallmann's syndrome (which is why I was curious about that in an earlier comment) who considers himself asexual, or maybe I just thought he was, but he has a hormone imbalance so that's why he doesn't have that libido or get turned on or whatever. I'm glad you took the time to share that with me without making me feel like a moron for having had it wrong :)
Asexuals may experience arousal or they may not. Some masturbate and some don't, some are fetishists (they find arousal from objects or situations, for instance, but not people -- some might even become aroused by people in certain situations but still have no desire to engage in sexual activities with anyone). I think it's more common among asexuals to not experience arousal and/or to not feel the need to masturbate than among the general public, and that asexuals might tend to be more likely ok with that fact and not see it as something that needs to be fixed though I'm not sure of the numbers there.
One popular way of helping someone understand it is if you yourself are heterosexual or gay -- there is a population of the people that you generally do not find sexually attractive based on their sex alone. We would feel toward all people the same way you feel, sexually, toward those that you don't find yourself attracted to in general because of your orientation.
This brings us right to romantic attraction though, I mean if it weren't for that what would Lev and I have? Maybe friendship. Some asexuals identify as aromantic also, they feel no romantic attraction to others. Others, like myself, experience romantic attraction which generally entails wanting all of the same things anyone else would want from a romantic relationship (partnership, maybe commitment, wanting to share experiences and life in general, having the same or compatible likes and dislikes, etc) except that we have no interest in having sex with the person.
It's absolutely fine with me if you ask, feel free to ask as many questions as you want. Always glad to help fix the misunderstandings.
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