:( I am sorry that you lost Garnet. I think that I was almost as sad as you were. I tend to grieve less for the pets themselves than for the owners of the pets who dearly love them. But even so, I empathise with their loss
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"I think that grief is someting like being in love, in that neither can be understood without being experienced."
I think I would agree.
I don't think I would be a very healthy griever considering the strength of my emotions.
"(Such as the loss of faith. If eternity is what gives you hope than the loss of that in the life of a friend gives true reason to mourn. Reason to mourn for them, not only yourself.)"
There is one death in particular that I currently fear above all others for this reason. I mostly gave that fear up though, I think. I pray that God would spare me the knowledge of it entirely.
And as I learned only after royally screwing up on my grandpa's funeral...
Funerals aren't important for the deceased so much as for the survivors. I can imagine nothing more agonizingly empty and painful than losing a loved one and having no one around to talk about it with. You don't go to a funeral for yourself or for the deceased; you go to comfort the family, to share with them in their loss, to mourn with those who mourn. You go to honor the memory of someone they loved, to confirm for them that the world will miss him or her.
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I think I would agree.
I don't think I would be a very healthy griever considering the strength of my emotions.
"(Such as the loss of faith. If eternity is what gives you hope than the loss of that in the life of a friend gives true reason to mourn. Reason to mourn for them, not only yourself.)"
There is one death in particular that I currently fear above all others for this reason. I mostly gave that fear up though, I think. I pray that God would spare me the knowledge of it entirely.
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but there will one day be a death that you fear for the sake of the living. (One remaining.)
(This will doubtless be shared in reverse.)
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Funerals aren't important for the deceased so much as for the survivors. I can imagine nothing more agonizingly empty and painful than losing a loved one and having no one around to talk about it with. You don't go to a funeral for yourself or for the deceased; you go to comfort the family, to share with them in their loss, to mourn with those who mourn. You go to honor the memory of someone they loved, to confirm for them that the world will miss him or her.
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Yes, I agree that they are for other people.
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