Say What?: Sex Slang Goes Viral
Hmmm. Blue waffles???
"Now, had I not just heard this term, I would’ve been stumped. But, this was actually the second time in just over a week that I had heard someone mention blue waffles. However, this urban school district was far removed from the last place I had heard this term - my car."
Driving my daughter and a friend home from their own sexuality course, I listened to their conversation in the backseat. (Moms are always invisible when chauffeuring teens and children.) They talked about what topics might be covered next, and the friend exclaimed, “As long as we don’t have to learn about blue waffles, I am ok.”
My daughter was intrigued, and I was stumped. When she tried to ask her friend, the friend refused to describe what blue waffles were, and told my daughter to look it up online. When my daughter couldn’t find anything, she asked me for help, and, my goodness, I’m glad she did! We found a picture illustrating what blue waffles were, and after I hauled my jaw back up off the floor, what followed was a wonderful teachable moment.
We were able to discuss sexually transmitted infections (STIs), how we can protect ourselves, and how most people don’t experience any symptoms when they do have infections. We also talked about scare tactics and how they don’t work when teaching teens about STIs, despite the penchant among some educators to show the most graphic, vile images they can find.
What was even more amazing was how viral the term had become among high school students. Not surprisingly, few adults knew about the term. And with the more adults I asked about term, I realized I was not the only adult not in the "waffle know." None of the adult advisors at the teen program had heard about blue waffles, and none of my work colleagues had, either. But, all the high school students in the leadership program knew exactly what the young man was talking about, and amidst gleeful shrieks of “EEEEeeeewwww” and a small detour into STIs, we managed to complete our discussion about stereotypes.
I am left pondering the ways that we teach adolescents about sexuality. They are exposed to so much more than I ever knew at their age; they are so sophisticated in so many ways, yet are still wide-eyed children in many other ways. How savvy we need to be as educators! I wondered: was it a good thing that I’d already known about blue waffles before this week’s conversation? Maybe … otherwise I might have needed a few minutes to collect myself after viewing the image for the first time! How can we keep up with changing slang terms and terms that travels faster than we can learn them?
I will be taking back another lesson on STIs next month. Perhaps I’ll bring in my laptop and show them the amazing Planned Parenthood Behind the Figleaf (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teen-talk/watch/am-normal-behind-fig-leaf-26794.htm) website, so they can see some normal and healthy genital drawings and answer the perennial question, “Am I Normal?” And I will continue to be grateful for access to accurate information on sexuality from organizations like Planned Parenthood who work hard to keep teens safe!
"Now, had I not just heard this term, I would’ve been stumped. But, this was actually the second time in just over a week that I had heard someone mention blue waffles. However, this urban school district was far removed from the last place I had heard this term - my car."
Driving my daughter and a friend home from their own sexuality course, I listened to their conversation in the backseat. (Moms are always invisible when chauffeuring teens and children.) They talked about what topics might be covered next, and the friend exclaimed, “As long as we don’t have to learn about blue waffles, I am ok.”
My daughter was intrigued, and I was stumped. When she tried to ask her friend, the friend refused to describe what blue waffles were, and told my daughter to look it up online. When my daughter couldn’t find anything, she asked me for help, and, my goodness, I’m glad she did! We found a picture illustrating what blue waffles were, and after I hauled my jaw back up off the floor, what followed was a wonderful teachable moment.
We were able to discuss sexually transmitted infections (STIs), how we can protect ourselves, and how most people don’t experience any symptoms when they do have infections. We also talked about scare tactics and how they don’t work when teaching teens about STIs, despite the penchant among some educators to show the most graphic, vile images they can find.
What was even more amazing was how viral the term had become among high school students. Not surprisingly, few adults knew about the term. And with the more adults I asked about term, I realized I was not the only adult not in the "waffle know." None of the adult advisors at the teen program had heard about blue waffles, and none of my work colleagues had, either. But, all the high school students in the leadership program knew exactly what the young man was talking about, and amidst gleeful shrieks of “EEEEeeeewwww” and a small detour into STIs, we managed to complete our discussion about stereotypes.
I am left pondering the ways that we teach adolescents about sexuality. They are exposed to so much more than I ever knew at their age; they are so sophisticated in so many ways, yet are still wide-eyed children in many other ways. How savvy we need to be as educators! I wondered: was it a good thing that I’d already known about blue waffles before this week’s conversation? Maybe … otherwise I might have needed a few minutes to collect myself after viewing the image for the first time! How can we keep up with changing slang terms and terms that travels faster than we can learn them?
I will be taking back another lesson on STIs next month. Perhaps I’ll bring in my laptop and show them the amazing Planned Parenthood Behind the Figleaf (http://www.plannedparenthood.org/teen-talk/watch/am-normal-behind-fig-leaf-26794.htm) website, so they can see some normal and healthy genital drawings and answer the perennial question, “Am I Normal?” And I will continue to be grateful for access to accurate information on sexuality from organizations like Planned Parenthood who work hard to keep teens safe!