Straight girls who aren't so straight after all

[choiceinaction]

I just need to get this out of my head and into writing...

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[bewtifulletown]

I left a marriage for a woman and had been "straight" up until then... Hope things turn out like you want them... :)

[choiceinaction]

Thank you for your kind words. The most I hope for right now is that she figures this out for herself. However that may be... of course I would be elated if it worked out that she wanted to be with me...

[troublefindsme]

Em...yeah, she's not straight. Of course, I think the whole world is gay, but this girl definately is bi at the very least.

[choiceinaction]

Yeah, I agree... I recently explained the kinsey scale to her and she seemed very interested in how that worked.

[devifemme]

Linda, the first girl I got seriously involved with, had slept with e guys before we fell for each other -- and she had issues stemming from her father's death from cancer only 3 years prior to us meeting. (She was 18; I was 20 -- same university

[nosemovie]

Oh boy. I can just feel by what you wrote that this woman has an energy that's matching you every which way. Exciting! but also the type of thing that draws you in and gets you to throw caution to the wind.

I say, continue to get to know her. Maybe slam on the breaks for the touching stuff, and just hang out. Go to the zoo, a movie, hang out like friends and make SURE you both really like eachother to the level that would make it through even if she decides she needs to be with guys. And give her space and time to figure out what really MEANS something to her.
I think a lot of women are with men specifically because they figure their society/families/church, etc TOLD them to be with men. With time, she might push some of that aside and you want to be that person she'll talk to about that. (and maybe more).

I so feel what you're saying. I fell for a woman I had no idea might be interested in women. And she's my wife now ;)

[shorti_08]

This.

You're currently at a place where she's going to need you to be her sounding board. I've made a lot of life-long friends by simply being there to listen and willingly discussing my sexuality with people. It'll help her figure herself out, and a lot of people benefit from having the space to do that without pressure.

I know my girlfriend did, and then she asked me out ;)

[choiceinaction]

I am certainly her sounding board right now. I try to be as objective as possible and allow her to talk or ramble on when ever she needs to. She will start making sense of it. It concerns me b/c she so obviously has feelings for women I don't want her to lie to herself. Though it is her life and her perception of what can make her the happiest. Thank you for your support. :)

[shorti_08]

It's sometimes a hard thing to accept. I remember I didn't fully come out to myself until I spent a night with two people I'd never met before talking about our lives and they both just turned to me and said "You're a lesbian, that's why it never works out with boys and why you can't help but stammer at cute waitresses." That's when it clicked for me, but not everyone will shock into it.

[choiceinaction]

Thank you, we have had many talks since I posted this and things are moving along. I am playing the friend card, though we are spending a lot of time together and our connection is growing stronger. I cherish her and love her in my life regardless of what form it takes. Though I do long for the day I can wrap my arms around her and help her with her struggles.