So, telling him is not the problem; the problem is him accepting your offer. Right? Well, there's not much you can do to change him. I think the only thing you can do is to make sure he's aware of the depth of your devotion and how you don't like to see him hurt. That way, if he wants to use your help, then you are there for him, and at least he won't feel totally alone and helpless. If he wants to do something else to deal with his hurt, then that's his choice. Basically, you can't make him like you, even though you care for him.
As for why you bother, I'd say that it's because you're a caring person who doesn't like fights or seeing people (especially those you consider friends) hurt or sad. I'd say that your wanting to help and make things better is just part of who you are.
And if you're looking for a good way to tell him, well, some people don't check email very often and may just not like to use it. It would probably be best to just tell him what you wrote above, but without having him feel obligated to use your help or guilty. Calling him on the phone might be best because it gives him a way out.
And if I'm right, I'm actually really shocked that you feel this way about said person. Really shocked.
But.
Despite that, if you really DO feel this way about this person, then I agree that you should maybe tell them exactly how you feel. Exactly what you just wrote in this post. Maybe via email or something. Or why not a letter in the mail. I think they would like that if the person is the person I think it is.
Anyway...can you call me tonight? I kind of want to chat about a few things.
As for why you bother, I'd say that it's because you're a caring person who doesn't like fights or seeing people (especially those you consider friends) hurt or sad. I'd say that your wanting to help and make things better is just part of who you are.
And if you're looking for a good way to tell him, well, some people don't check email very often and may just not like to use it. It would probably be best to just tell him what you wrote above, but without having him feel obligated to use your help or guilty. Calling him on the phone might be best because it gives him a way out.
-Mark
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And if I'm right, I'm actually really shocked that you feel this way about said person. Really shocked.
But.
Despite that, if you really DO feel this way about this person, then I agree that you should maybe tell them exactly how you feel. Exactly what you just wrote in this post. Maybe via email or something. Or why not a letter in the mail. I think they would like that if the person is the person I think it is.
Anyway...can you call me tonight? I kind of want to chat about a few things.
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*hugs*
you're the best husband ever ^_~
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