learning about myself...and others.
I had this training today that was all about being able to better relate to different types of people. I was fascinated by some of it.
There's a part of me that really really wishes that Lisa had convinced Leeann to take it again. I think she might have, um, FORGOTTEN some of the things that were taught.
Going back:
Yesterday I almost killed Leeann. I know I say that a lot, but I really just wanted to knock her block off. She complains incessantly about how the cold room is set up.
This is a longer version of how I explained my utter frustration to oh_chris:
Imagine that, 3 years ago, you set up a filing system. It was logical, and it was very highly effective. Over the past 3 years, certain folders in your filing system have been made obsolete and removed, and new folders have come in, and you've adapted your system to accommodate those changes. And things are working pretty well.
Now imagine that some guy comes along and tries to use your filing system. So you take him through it a few times, and they seem to get the hang of it. And then a month or so later, he starts bitching about how "disorganized" it is and how it needs to be cleaned out. And this complaining continues, off and on, for A FUCKING YEAR. And lately, you've been hearing it at least ONCE A DAY.
Last night, I almost left my resignation on Lisa's desk. I was THAT pissed off.
So, today, I went to this training. It's called Enhancing Interpersonal Relationships, and basically what it teaches you is how to play your strengths on other people's strengths and how to tone down your weaknesses or over-used strong points to accommodate a cooperative environment. Or some corporate bullshit like that.
Leeann took this class last year. And she liked it, and she mentions ALL THE TIME how she really liked this class. You know, woo hoo and all that.
When I was in the class, I could very easily pick out what things described her and what things described me. And it made it very clear why she pushes my buttons so very easily, and why she and I react very poorly to each other when we're even the slightest bit ticked off.
The thing is that one of the biggest things that is emphasized in the class is that you're supposed to try to accommodate other people's communication styles in order to achieve your needs in the relationship. And while I understand it works both ways, I gotta say ... well, it works both ways. I have seen little to no effort on her part to meet my demands, so why should I meet hers? I mean, yes, I should be taking the "moral high road" or whatever we want to call "me kowtowing to her", but why do I have to be the only one who makes any sort of effort to change, when she pisses me off JUST AS BADLY?
I really just am not sure what to do here. Suggestions are welcome, with the caveat thatmy replies will likely carry a very discouraged tone. Unless you're secretly my trainer from today. (Or Leeann.)
There's a part of me that really really wishes that Lisa had convinced Leeann to take it again. I think she might have, um, FORGOTTEN some of the things that were taught.
Going back:
Yesterday I almost killed Leeann. I know I say that a lot, but I really just wanted to knock her block off. She complains incessantly about how the cold room is set up.
This is a longer version of how I explained my utter frustration to oh_chris:
Imagine that, 3 years ago, you set up a filing system. It was logical, and it was very highly effective. Over the past 3 years, certain folders in your filing system have been made obsolete and removed, and new folders have come in, and you've adapted your system to accommodate those changes. And things are working pretty well.
Now imagine that some guy comes along and tries to use your filing system. So you take him through it a few times, and they seem to get the hang of it. And then a month or so later, he starts bitching about how "disorganized" it is and how it needs to be cleaned out. And this complaining continues, off and on, for A FUCKING YEAR. And lately, you've been hearing it at least ONCE A DAY.
Last night, I almost left my resignation on Lisa's desk. I was THAT pissed off.
So, today, I went to this training. It's called Enhancing Interpersonal Relationships, and basically what it teaches you is how to play your strengths on other people's strengths and how to tone down your weaknesses or over-used strong points to accommodate a cooperative environment. Or some corporate bullshit like that.
Leeann took this class last year. And she liked it, and she mentions ALL THE TIME how she really liked this class. You know, woo hoo and all that.
When I was in the class, I could very easily pick out what things described her and what things described me. And it made it very clear why she pushes my buttons so very easily, and why she and I react very poorly to each other when we're even the slightest bit ticked off.
The thing is that one of the biggest things that is emphasized in the class is that you're supposed to try to accommodate other people's communication styles in order to achieve your needs in the relationship. And while I understand it works both ways, I gotta say ... well, it works both ways. I have seen little to no effort on her part to meet my demands, so why should I meet hers? I mean, yes, I should be taking the "moral high road" or whatever we want to call "me kowtowing to her", but why do I have to be the only one who makes any sort of effort to change, when she pisses me off JUST AS BADLY?
I really just am not sure what to do here. Suggestions are welcome, with the caveat thatmy replies will likely carry a very discouraged tone. Unless you're secretly my trainer from today. (Or Leeann.)