Okay, chicks and chickadees, cats and kittens. This is the last set of sermon notes on God’s design for families and marriage, and it is about mothers
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I think a lot of stuff you brought up tends to come up before marriage. If it doesn't, then doesn't that already show a lack of trust or respect that will just cause problems further down the road?
This is why a lot of couples will take part in pre-counseling. You really have to make a lot of decisions and come to terms with a lot of things about yourself before you can enter into what should be a lifelong commitment.
Of course there has to be compromise; I thought that was a given.
Anyway, when you get down to the bottom of it, marriage is about two people becoming one person. In order to do that, you have to be aware of your other half, not be selfish, and understand you are no longer making decisions for just yourself. The decisions you make effect the life and well-being of your spouse and any other living creature in your household, so you have to be responsible.
Analogy time: if your leg was badly cut, would your hands not do something about it simply because it's a different part of the body? Would your eyes just look away and let your brain ignore it? If that happens, the entire body begins to fail. Marriage and family, as I have come to understand it, is much the same. You don't let your leg wound fester; would you let a damaged spouse fester?
Of course, anyone who would needs a smack upside the head, and I think these sermons helped make that apparent for some people. One woman I know had been ignoring her own marital problems for ages, busying herself with her children and her housework. It wasn't until hearing the first few of these sermons that she finally decided that she needed to quit trying to push down her emotions and discuss the problems with her husband. Some people just need to be nudged a bit and they will draw their own conclusions based on what little is given them.
This is why a lot of couples will take part in pre-counseling. You really have to make a lot of decisions and come to terms with a lot of things about yourself before you can enter into what should be a lifelong commitment.
Of course there has to be compromise; I thought that was a given.
Anyway, when you get down to the bottom of it, marriage is about two people becoming one person. In order to do that, you have to be aware of your other half, not be selfish, and understand you are no longer making decisions for just yourself. The decisions you make effect the life and well-being of your spouse and any other living creature in your household, so you have to be responsible.
Analogy time: if your leg was badly cut, would your hands not do something about it simply because it's a different part of the body? Would your eyes just look away and let your brain ignore it? If that happens, the entire body begins to fail. Marriage and family, as I have come to understand it, is much the same. You don't let your leg wound fester; would you let a damaged spouse fester?
Of course, anyone who would needs a smack upside the head, and I think these sermons helped make that apparent for some people. One woman I know had been ignoring her own marital problems for ages, busying herself with her children and her housework. It wasn't until hearing the first few of these sermons that she finally decided that she needed to quit trying to push down her emotions and discuss the problems with her husband. Some people just need to be nudged a bit and they will draw their own conclusions based on what little is given them.
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