i believe?
This next post is something I typed up during one of those early mornings when I look at the time and wonder what I'm doing still awake at 3am.
A bit of background. I have this friend who was complaining that a guy she didn't know was hanging out with our high school group the other week. Now, the thing was, she wasn't even there and she was complaining about why we were opening our group to outsiders. The only thing I can say to that is 'why the hell can't we hang out with someone new?' Why are there some people who won't let newcomers in? And this piece came to life because I was so pissed off at my so-called 'friend'.
Apologies to Neil Gaiman for ripping off the idea from his 'I Believe' speech in American Gods. The first line is an exact quote from that speech. Apologies too to the lyrics I've made blatant use of here. This was merely something I ended up emailing to two friends. I really wanted to email it to our group's yahoogroup, but didn't want to publicly pick a fight with another one of our friends.
I can believe things that are true and I can believe things that aren't true and I can believe things where nobody knows if they're true or not. I can believe that friendships last forever and I can believe that some friends are there only so you have someone to talk to during those general education classes you really don't want to be wasting your brain cells on. I can believe that when everything else keeps changing, you and I, we get continued next week; and I can believe that I lose the friends that I needed losing. I believe that friends are tested through years of trial and I believe that friends are made during a day spent in laughter. I believe that friendship is about laughing and spending time together and I believe that friendship is made in tears and bonds that thrive even when you haven't seen each other in such a long time that you're shocked when you see them again. I believe that old friends are like wine, getting better with age, and I believe that new friends are quickly made and quickly they're no longer new and you can tease the hell out of them. I believe that there are group loyalties and that we should stand up for our friends, and I believe that defining a group can differ depending on each group and standing up for friendships does not necessarily entail pushing others away. I believe in best friends forever and I believe that labels aren't needed to define friendships and that whoever invented the term best friends could just go fuck himself--or herself, I'm more inclined to believe a female invented the term. I believe that small groups of different friends can come together in a cohesive whole that defies how people commonly think of friendships and I believe that newcomers need not always be out of place in a group. I believe in old friends, I believe in new friends, I believe that a person can know me in ten years, and I believe that a person can know me in one semester. i believe in what she thought when asked if inviting someone to a get together where the others have known each other for years was a good idea
Why the hell not?!
The thing I always loved about our group of friends is that it never mattered if we had other friends or other groups outside our group. It took time for the little groups of friends within our group to come together into a single large, whole group. And I believe that the circumstances of our friendships have made us a lot more accepting of other people. The fact that one of our friends acts and thinks contrary to what I believed our group was like pissed me off. It made me feel like we were being diminished by that hostility. I wish she'd just grow up
A bit of background. I have this friend who was complaining that a guy she didn't know was hanging out with our high school group the other week. Now, the thing was, she wasn't even there and she was complaining about why we were opening our group to outsiders. The only thing I can say to that is 'why the hell can't we hang out with someone new?' Why are there some people who won't let newcomers in? And this piece came to life because I was so pissed off at my so-called 'friend'.
Apologies to Neil Gaiman for ripping off the idea from his 'I Believe' speech in American Gods. The first line is an exact quote from that speech. Apologies too to the lyrics I've made blatant use of here. This was merely something I ended up emailing to two friends. I really wanted to email it to our group's yahoogroup, but didn't want to publicly pick a fight with another one of our friends.
I can believe things that are true and I can believe things that aren't true and I can believe things where nobody knows if they're true or not. I can believe that friendships last forever and I can believe that some friends are there only so you have someone to talk to during those general education classes you really don't want to be wasting your brain cells on. I can believe that when everything else keeps changing, you and I, we get continued next week; and I can believe that I lose the friends that I needed losing. I believe that friends are tested through years of trial and I believe that friends are made during a day spent in laughter. I believe that friendship is about laughing and spending time together and I believe that friendship is made in tears and bonds that thrive even when you haven't seen each other in such a long time that you're shocked when you see them again. I believe that old friends are like wine, getting better with age, and I believe that new friends are quickly made and quickly they're no longer new and you can tease the hell out of them. I believe that there are group loyalties and that we should stand up for our friends, and I believe that defining a group can differ depending on each group and standing up for friendships does not necessarily entail pushing others away. I believe in best friends forever and I believe that labels aren't needed to define friendships and that whoever invented the term best friends could just go fuck himself--or herself, I'm more inclined to believe a female invented the term. I believe that small groups of different friends can come together in a cohesive whole that defies how people commonly think of friendships and I believe that newcomers need not always be out of place in a group. I believe in old friends, I believe in new friends, I believe that a person can know me in ten years, and I believe that a person can know me in one semester. i believe in what she thought when asked if inviting someone to a get together where the others have known each other for years was a good idea
Why the hell not?!
The thing I always loved about our group of friends is that it never mattered if we had other friends or other groups outside our group. It took time for the little groups of friends within our group to come together into a single large, whole group. And I believe that the circumstances of our friendships have made us a lot more accepting of other people. The fact that one of our friends acts and thinks contrary to what I believed our group was like pissed me off. It made me feel like we were being diminished by that hostility. I wish she'd just grow up