Exhaling and then holding my breath
The social worker just called. She is scheduled to visit the home of the Aunt tomorrow who would replace us as relative caregivers. Assuming the home checks out ok, which is likely, he can be placed with them as soon as tomorrow. Wow! I'm relieved and a little surprised. For as slow as things have been moving, this is really fast.
Mid January was the deadline we had given and it seems like that's what they (the father, father's family and social services) to make things happen. They still haven't gotten the fingerprints cleared from the Uncle, which is what we've been waiting on all month, but they did another background check which suffices for a temporary placement pending the fingerprint approval.
With our deadline coming up, DH and I wondered what would happen if they didn't come through. Would we really have the heart to place him in foster care? Sometimes I was ok with it, because it seemed like that was the only way anything would happen (and I have to wonder about this - would they be acting now if we didn't seem serious about turning him over to foster care? We first told them to start searching in early Nov. and nothing happened until we gave them this ultimatum). But most of the time I couldn't fathom it.
We were supposed to tour the hospital tonight. Now I'm wondering if we should go and do something special with the kids since it could be his last night with us. I'm also wondering how DD will handle it. I don't think DN will understand if I try to explain it to him.
Of course, this is assuming it all goes through...
Mid January was the deadline we had given and it seems like that's what they (the father, father's family and social services) to make things happen. They still haven't gotten the fingerprints cleared from the Uncle, which is what we've been waiting on all month, but they did another background check which suffices for a temporary placement pending the fingerprint approval.
With our deadline coming up, DH and I wondered what would happen if they didn't come through. Would we really have the heart to place him in foster care? Sometimes I was ok with it, because it seemed like that was the only way anything would happen (and I have to wonder about this - would they be acting now if we didn't seem serious about turning him over to foster care? We first told them to start searching in early Nov. and nothing happened until we gave them this ultimatum). But most of the time I couldn't fathom it.
We were supposed to tour the hospital tonight. Now I'm wondering if we should go and do something special with the kids since it could be his last night with us. I'm also wondering how DD will handle it. I don't think DN will understand if I try to explain it to him.
Of course, this is assuming it all goes through...