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Dec 14, 2005 22:53

Ever since i got married, the pressure to have a kid has been on. What the hell? It's as if all the mothers want you to endure the pain they have had as soon as possible ( Read more... )

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myrgthful December 17 2005, 14:38:49 UTC
I think the women who tell you BS like that have no clue what they're saying. They probably mean well, and in their current state they can't imagine anyone not feeling the way they do. But then, they've already been there, been through birth.

You could also consider an elective C-section... Some doctors might entertain the possibility.

Yeah, childbirth is painful and it's hard. The pregnancy before it is no picnic, either. Morning sickness. Food cravings. Achy joints. False-labor pains. Checkups. Having strange people palpate your body in "the bikini zone". And then, childbirth. You expand to accomodate your baby coming out. You feel a great deal of fear. And all of this happens if you don't experience some of the other, possibly more dangerous complications. Tearing. Diabetes insipidus. Pre-eclampsia. Placenta previa.

And, it also happens every day. It has happened at least six billion times, given our current world population. Several billion more than that, given our predecessors. It's a natural process. Something your body was designed to endure. (although, most mothers will tell you, not without a cost) And when the complications come along, we're better prepared to deal with them now than ever before. We can make childbirth essentially painless, if you get to the hospital in time.

Definitely, wait 'til you're ready. It's better for all of us if people don't become a parent unless and until they're ready for it.

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mrsblackorchid December 18 2005, 02:47:17 UTC
When you say essentially painless, what about the tearing and all of that? I want as many drugs that is legally allowed when that happens. :(

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myrgthful December 18 2005, 15:53:55 UTC
That's why they do episiotomies, sometimes. And you do get pain medication after the baby comes out... they won't leave you high and dry. ;-)

I've been there for several childbirths. Trust me: this is one of the more wonderful things in the world, hard as it is.

I'm confident that, once you've been through that gauntlet, you'll be a different person. Stronger. Better. And here's a funny lesson which parenthood (and childbirth) have taught me: what you go through for a person, intensifies your love for that person. You wouldn't think it would work that way, but it does.

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