Ms. Lonely

[lama_papaya12]

I wish I didn't have to go to my bed alone, once again, as I have every night of my life. I feel that I have moved to the place in my life in which I need someone to just lay with and not be alone at night. I know that these thoughts are probably incorrect, I mean there has to be a reason that our culture tells us we can't do such things at my age

Comments

[hobbitchild]

Try not to look on your loneliness as a negative thing. Instead, look at it as an opportunity for growth and deeper understanding of self. Until we can live peacefully with ourselves, we will never live peacefully with others. Look upon the time spent alone as a blessing, for, believe it or not, times will come in your life when you will want nothing more than to be alone. Everything has a season. It may seem hard to have this loneliness imposed on you, but it is necessary that everybody experience it at some point in their lives. If you spend all your time alone dwelling on your loneliness, you will miss the lessons. You miss out on an amazing opportunity to learn about yourself.

I think that people, especially girls, tend to fall into the habit of defining who we are through out relationships. Often we define who we are through our friends or through a significant other. This is an extremely dangerous practice. Do not neglect your inner self and do not deny the value of yourself as company. I know that sounds like a strange statement, but some people go their entire lives without ever facing who they are. I really believe we never learn who we are without loneliness. This is why monks and holy people of all faiths often have to go through a phase of isolation or silence.

Just be patient. You may sleep alone now, but if you learn to be okay with this, it will only make it that much better when you sleep with somebody else. You will not live in constant fear of being separated from the one you love because you will be comfortable with yourself. Know that this is a phase, like anything else, and it will pass in time.